(Closed) Seating Chart or not

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do we make a seating chart?
    Yes : (22 votes)
    63 %
    No : (13 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    2712 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would do a seating chart.  I know it’s a smaller wedding, but I think seating charts are good for a number of reasons.

    1.  The help avoid the awkward situations you’ve described.  The odds are it won’t happen, but I’d rather be safe than sorry.

    2  If you have guests that don’t know many, if any, other people at the wedding (dates of the bridal party) then you can seat them with other guests they know or have something in common with and they aren’t left wandering around or stuck by themselves somewhere. 

    3. I’ve also seen it happen where a larger group wants to sit together so they take other seats from another table and you could be stuck with a table of just a few people and that could suck for them. 

    4. What if a family or couple gets in late (or just later than everyone else) and there isn’t enough room at a table for them to sit together?  That would also suck.  If you decide not to do a seating chart then you really need to have an extra table or 2 and some chairs to avoid this situation.

    Anyway, I hope this was helpful.  Good luck!

    Post # 4
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My family was divorced, and I knew that they would all adults and be able to seat themselves.   I had a few thank me for letting them sit with whom they chose.  

    Post # 5
    1200 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I absolutely hate seating charts… the best receptions and events I’ve been to had none. I, too, am having a smaller reception with some awkward family dynamics and no… I will not have a seating chart.

    Post # 6
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i’m in the same boat… i dnt think im going to be doing a seating chart or wedding party tor parent table either too many family members that dnt get along and i dnt want to have to worry about the drama on my wedding day


    Post # 7
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am having an all-cocktail reception and I am thinking we won’t have a seating chart to avoid awkward dynamics (my parents are divorced and even though my father isn’t invited, his parents will be there, and my FI’s parents are divorced as well).

    HOWEVER, I need to share a tip I got from my caterer. She told me that if you don’t want to have a seating chart, you need to have extra tables because as people try and find seats they may feel uncomfortable with filling up a whole table with people they don’t know. We are only having enough people to need 9 tables of 8, but I am considering having 11 tables of 8 just to give people a little bit of breathing room. 

    Post # 8
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would do a table chart, if not a seating chart. I just think it takes the guesswork otu of it for your guests.

    @tonights <– also really good point!

    Post # 9
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I prefer at least a table chart.

    for one: prevents everyone stealing chairs from another table and left with a couple sitting in an empty table.  It just sucks…


    secondly, you know how the dynamic of your guest.  You can always group the “right” people together.  If they want to swap seats later with someone, they can on their own.


    If yours are going to be buffet, then no seating chart is not a problem.  If you do plated, then definitely will need a seating chart. 


    also it needs to depend on how your guests group together.  If you have pretty good idea they will be grouping in tables of 8 anyway, then seating chart or not is not a problem.  But you have a couple people that doesn’t know everyone else well.  It might create an awkward situation for them. 

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