Post # 1
I guess the closer to the wedding (28 days) the more stressed I am getting. Tonight we worked on tables. I think we have it but… One table is my Future Sister-In-Law and her husband, her aunt and uncle and my cousin with her husband and 6 year old. The only reason I worry is because the Future Sister-In-Law admitted to me once that she is resentful that her aunt and uncle weren’t great g-d parents. Heck, I haven’t seen mine since I was there (45 years). I tried moving people around but it didn’t work, different age groups and interests andI think everything else looks okay, I think. Would it better to have choose your own seat? It’s a buffet dinner. Thanks.
Post # 2
I’ve only ever heard of assigned seating when it’s a plated meal. Never for buffets. Mine was a buffet and it was seat yourself. Less stress for me and no awkward, forced interactions for guests. It’s completely up to you, but I don’t find seating charts necessary in that situation.
Post # 3
How many at a table? I would definitely keep assigned tables. It’s also stressful and awkward for me as a guest to have to find a place to sit. It’ll be much less chaotic if you assign tables for everyone.
I think your Future Sister-In-Law can be a grown up for one night. Especially if you’re letting them choose their own seat at the table, she can just not sit directly next to them.
Post # 4
You still need assigned tables, even for a buffet. You don’t need to assign seats at the table, but defintely keep the table assignments. I don’t quite understand the situation here. Are you saying the aunt & uncle are the sister in law’s god parents, and they weren’t the best god parents to her? What does that even mean? What did she expect from them? I would leave them at the same table and not give it another thought. Surely they can be civil for 30 minutes at a time between mingling with other friends and family. This isn’t anything to worry about.
Post # 5
Daisy_Mae : fourthnoel : khaleesi13 :
thank you for your advice.
yes, that’s exactly what I mean. My fsil has some understand issues indeed.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I would do assigned tables. The problem is though not everyone always follows it anyway! But assigned tables works out better for you just because it shows you how it looks and how it is spaced.