(Closed) seating chart yay or nay

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you using a seating chart
    yes : (42 votes)
    72 %
    no : (12 votes)
    21 %
    I don't know yet : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    We are. I’ve been to countless dinners and weddings where there was no seating arrangements and it was mass chaos. Even to the point where people who arrive together are forced to be split up. 

    Post # 4
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    1347 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m not, because I’m having a very laidback, outdoor picnic wedding at a park with ~100 who will almost all know each other. I think having a seating chart for our reception would be interfere with our casual vibe. If we were doing an indoor reception or fancier one, though, I’m pretty sure I’d go for one.

    Post # 5
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    ooo i want to know too!  For now I am thinking no, because we are doing more of an appetizer dinner, not a regular 3 course meal, so i thought it would be more fun to let people feel like they can get up and down whenever they want… but i’d like to know if people did this and it was horrible, or if people did this and it was fine!

    Post # 6
    Member
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Yes. We have a lot of people, many of whom don’t know each other and it would be a big mess to let people find their own seats. So we have to do it for them. 😉 I also want to make sure that our disabled guests have seats that are easy to access.

    ETA: Our wedding is pretty formal, so that factored into the decision as well.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We didn’t have a seating chart.  We were thinking there would be a max of 100 but only had about 30 people that came to the wedding.  With that small amount of people, it wasn’t mass chaos but with more people I could see it being a problem.

    Post # 8
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    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I say yes and it’s mostly because it can be a mess for people to seat themselves because you get lots of openings at tables with a chair here or there and other people end up struggling to find somewhere to sit.  We just went to a wedding 2 weeks ago and it was SOOOO annoying trying to find seats, the couple didn’t even at least have reserved tables for families, so our whole side (we are from the groom’s family) got stuck in a corner all the way in the back of the room where we couldn’t see anything that was going on.  And this included the groom’s grandma, which I felt like wasn’t cool, she deserved a better seat than we got.

    Post # 9
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Based on experience with family dinners at Thanksgiving or Christmas for example, with just 20 people between two tables, people have enough trouble figuring out where to sit so I couldn’t begin to imagine letting 100 people loose to fend for themselves to find a seat available with whomever they came with. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Also be aware that there are some people who will save seats for their friends who don’t even sit with them and they don’t give up those seats for anything, even when there is nowhere else to sit and folks are forced to sit on the floor or stand. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Yes, because J wants to. We agreed that we both have veto power on stuff early on, and this one is important to him… and I’m kind of take-it-or-leave-it, leaning in the direction of being lazy and not bothering. But he wants it, so we’re assigning tables (not seats).

    Post # 13
    Member
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t know for 100% yet, but I am leaning towards yes. That way, everyone will have a seat and there won’t be anyone who might be coming to the wedding alone who doesn’t know where to sit. 

    Post # 14
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    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We’re doing assigned seats because:

    1. We’re having a plated dinner & we need to have a seating plan w/ a marker for which entree each guest will be having

    2. I’ve only been to 1 wedding without assigned seating & it was stressful! People were scrambling for a seat & my table included four children under the age of 10, two seniors and myself & my date. lol

    Post # 15
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    4566 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’re assigning tables, but not seats. That way everyone has a seat, but it takes the guesswork out of who will be sitting next to whom.

    Post # 16
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    3331 posts
    Sugar bee

    We assigned tables, but not specific seats.  I’ve actually never been to a wedding that didn’t at least assign tables.  I’d be afraid that some tables would be half empty and others would be too crowded.  We took a lot of time to figure out who would work sitting with whom, so I was confident that people would be happy with their seats.

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