Post # 1
My fiance and I are 4 weeks away from our big day. Throughout the entire planning process, we’ve adamently disagreed on one topic… he’s COMPLETELY against the idea of a seating chart & “telling people where to sit”. He would rather reserve three tables for our immediate family and just let everyone else sit wherever they choose.
I, on the other hand, would rather give people a place to sit rather than leave them to hunt for one on their own. Maybe it’s the Type A personality I have, but I just feel like it would be more beneficial to our guests. That way they don’t have to worry about this detail.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I hate going to weddings where there is just open seating. I would much rather have a seat reserved for me so I don’t have to walk around trying to find one. If the bride and groom puts some thought into who would make interesting and fun tablemates, I think things run much more smoothly.
Post # 4
I am assigning tables. It helps prevent the awkwardness of not knowing where to sit if you are a guest.
Post # 5
What about having the guests just assigned to tables? Then they could sit by whoever they want at that table and it would be a good compromise with your FI.
Post # 6
@noritake22 that’s what I want to do, but he’s completely against it… says it’s too much work. I’m going home for my wedding 2 weeks before so i might just make that decision and go with it.
Post # 7
I think you should just go with it, and leave him out of it. Everyone will appreciate having at least assigned tables, instead of just wandering around like they are lost.
Post # 8
Another reason to do a seating chart is because otherwise some guests might not even be able to get seating together with their families. Then they’ll try and cram in extra seats at a table, etc. Any wedding I’ve been too without at least a table assignment has been pure utter chaos and frustration.
Post # 9
I’m all for assigning tables and letting the guests choose the chair. I have been to countless events, where size is completely irrelevant, where open seating does not work at all and has been a complete madhouse. Some of things that happen with open seating that you cannot prevent are couples and families getting split up, some people save chairs for friends who never sit with them and then do not give up those chairs for any reason, even if it means the only other option is someone sitting on the floor. That type of setting where you have to ask if a seat is taken does not get any less awkward as an adult as it was in high school.
By having a seating arrangement, you not only keep certain guests away from each other who would not be comfortable sitting together and you make the guests feel like you actually care about their comfort and eliminates stress on everyone’s part. It is not taking people back to kindergarten at all and should not take much time if you know each of your guests and who they would be most comfortable sitting with.
Post # 10
You’ll find a lot of opinions on this topic around the boards and the wedding-o-sphere, but the advice in general somewhat overwhelmingly leans toward guests finding it much more relaxed and comfortable to at least have tables assigned. If your FI thinks it’s too much work, then give him another job and do it yourself. Your guests will appreciate the extra effort to make them comfortable and at ease during the reception.
Post # 11
My opinion is that if you have round, separate tables it’s a good idea to assign guests to a particular table. I’m having long picnic style tables so people are going to choose their own seating cos it’ll be like one big table. If I was having seperate round tables I’d do a seating chart. It makes it easier for guests if they at least have a table they know they belong to.
Post # 12
This is an issue for us too! I think we should at least set a chart for tables. This matter just blew up for us yesterday because he still believes people have the right to choose where they want to sit and he has “NEVER been to a wedding where they told me where to sit”. I beg to differ, but I really don’t know how far to actually worry about it. I wanna make it down the aisle 🙂 If it were my decision, I would assign tables. Good luck with your decision.
Post # 13
I say make the seating chart without your FI. The vast majority of your guests will agree with you and be glad to be assigned to a table. I really dislike open seating as a guest.
Post # 14
Thanks ladies! You’re amazing!!
Post # 15
I went to my cousin’s wedding in May and it was very non-traditional. We were told that the seats we sat in at the ceremony were to be moved to the tables behind us as our reception seats. We ended up moving a few seats each just to be helpful. Unfortunately, it ended up being a free-for-all and a good handful of people had nowhere to sit and couldn’t even sit with their party. I do not recommend this.