(Closed) Seating charts. Im flustered, to tell people where to sit or not?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: To tell people where to sit or not
    Make seating placements for the wedding party and their spouses and everyone else can sit anywhere : (5 votes)
    17 %
    Everyone can sit where they want to including the wedding party : (0 votes)
    Make seating arrangements for everyone/if they dont like it they can move themselves : (24 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I know its probably a lot of work. But I would tell people where to sit. My cousin did open seating and it seemed like there weren’t enough chairs. There were exactly the right number but b/c people left open seats next to them for their bags and stuff it was awkward.

    Post # 4
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i think it’s really up to you. my brother’s wedding had over 200 people with open seating and there were no problems. my husband wasn’t ok with that for us, so we did a seating chart. the only bad part about it was it is soooo hard to figure out where people should sit to make everyone happy. but i do love the pretty escort cards.

    Post # 5
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I wasn’t going to at first, but after I thought about it I wanted to make sure people that knew each other were able to sit together. I thought it would be terrible to be the last few guests to arrive and sort of have to cram themselves in the last few seats wherever and possibly be sitting with complete strangers. It took a long time to make it work! I had little colour-coded post-it tags with people’s names and I shuffled them around endlessly. It’s worse than doing a puzzle. Good luck!

    Post # 6
    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It totally depends on your group.  If everybody knows a lot of people, and so would have a lot of places they’d feel comfortable sitting, then you might be okay.  But, the only time I’ve ever seen open seating done was a wedding where most people only knew a few other guests, and the end result was a frantic scramble for seats because nobody wanted to get stuck somewhere awkward.  Imagine if you only knew 8 people at a wedding, and they grab a table for 8 before you find them – now you could end up as the odd man out at table of 7 close friends.

    Post # 7
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Assign people tables, allow them to choose their seats at that table.  When you do open seating, it always makes things way more awkward, and you end up with things like a couple not being able to find two seats together, your wild college friends stuck with grandma and great aunt Gertrude, etc.

    Post # 8
    516 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think it really causes way too much confusion when you don’t have seating arrangements. Then you may have not as close family friends who walk in before your parents take better seats than your parents will get. There are just way too many issues that can happen without the structure of seating arrangements.

    Post # 9
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it usually works out the best to have people assigned to table numbers (that way you don’t have 15 people at table 6 but only 3 people at table 7). I also assigned seats because I wanted to do placecards. For escort cards I am pinning (with pretty pearl pins) cards that say “John Doe Table 2” and then pinning them to a pretty bulletin I made. 


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