Post # 32
I would say do assign tables but not seats. This way, you KNOW everyone has a seat! I went to a wedding this past summer, and my Fiance and I were made to split up because there were not two seats left together. Now i know the chances of that happening are slim, but it was at a friends wedding, and it wasn’t very fun for my Fiance because he really didn’t know anyone there. Another thing is that you will for sure know that everyone has a seat and gets seated atleast with someone that they know. Yes, people can deal with sitting with people they don’t know, but they do have something in common-THE BRIDE AND GROOM!
Post # 33
I’ve never been to a wedding where seats were assigned. I like the idea of letting people mix and mingle with each other, whether it be with new people or with old friends, but of their choosing.
Post # 34
No matter what you do, people will do what they want to. I assigned tables, but not seats and I still had people sitting where they decided that they wanted to… Including moving place settings. I also had 4 people who were all seated at the same table simply not show up…frustrations abound. I must say though that I went to my husbands christmas party where no seats or tables were assigned. We ended up with a much older couple at our table who didn’t talk and no one really talked to because no one really knew them. Seems like a good idea to assign tables.
Post # 35
Yes, assign tables! If you spend the time to make sure your guests sit with the people they know (and often want to catch up with), then your guests don’t have to rush to grab tables or end up findings seats with people they don’t know. I found it quite easy and I personally believe its the considerate thing to do!
Post # 36
Wow, I think there are three people who said they always go to weddings without seating. That is a surprise. I’ve only been to one wedding that didn’t have assigned seating. That wasn’t fun because my parents and Fh had to "make" a table in the corner.
The only way I’d suggest to not have assigned tables/seating is:
1. if it’s very common for your family.
2. If you reception really has no organized dinner (sit down or buffet).
Otherwise, the other posts about school lunchroom are so true. The wedding Imentioned that didn’t have assigned seating…exactly how I felt, all through the ceremony even. And it happened, we ended up being the last ones in and got a cruddy spot.
While people might move their seats anyway, I think if your tables are appropriately filled, it would be difficult for this to happen too much. And if people are going to complain about seating them with people they don’t know, if you don’t assign seats those same people will compalin when they don’t get a seat because they are all taken.
For the most part not assigning tables is a disaster, IMO. I would definitely hate to attend another wedding without it.