Post # 1
As per some great suggestings from you bees, I’ve completely stopped telling my Future Mother-In-Law anything about the wedding, as has my Fiance. After the arranged appointment this Saturday she is going to get radio silence. But I was speaking with my Fiance while he was at his parents house and my Future Mother-In-Law shouted in the background that she wants to see the seating charts … for our wedding in mid-July. She wanted me to know that it was etiquette to sit the parents together at a table. Every wedding I’ve been to (Admittingly, only about 4) has had the parents and immediate family of the groom and bride at separate tables. I’m just curious, as I’m not willing to appease her every whim right now – Is it etiquette to seat parents together? Did you?
This topic was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by kayah.
Post # 2
Nope. We didn’t do it (late 70s), and my daughter’s didn’t do it. In fact, I’d rather have needles in my eyeballs, than have sat with either set of in laws. Ignore her!
Post # 3
We seated our parents together.
Post # 4
I have seen this done at weddings with both sets of parents and grandparents at one table, but I’ve also have seen them seperated. However, I’ll be the first to admit I’m not incredibly knowledgable about this type of etiquette.
Post # 5
I’ve never seen that. I’ve always seen them at separate tables.
Post # 6
That’s not true at all. People are normally seated with there own immediate families.
Post # 7
I have no idea if it’s etiquette, but I probably won’t be doing it unless the tables would be weird or unbalanced otherwise. My mom has met my Future Mother-In-Law once and really, really didn’t like her (they were all helping us move and Future Mother-In-Law was pretty rude to her). I’m not going to force people to sit together and be unhappy.
Post # 8
generally the parents have a spot “of honor” either at the head tabe, or closest to the bride and groom
we gave each set of parents their own table and sat them with their siblings (so my aunts and uncles)
I wouldn’t seat my parents up at the front and then seat his way in the back next to the bathrooms or something but I think as long as they are equally “nice” then its fine to give each side their own space
Post # 9
We will be seating our parents together (at our table even– our bridal party will be split across two tables so that they can sit with their spouses/partners/children).
Post # 10
Our families were at separate tables. Although our families get along great and all like eachother, the whole “two families become one” was always silly. My family wants to sit by eachother as Im sure his family did too.
Post # 11
Hmm i was going to have the sit together because they get along great. No idea on what the etiquette is.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Never really paid attention… We have 6 person tables so I was planning on puting my parents + both sets of my grandparents at table 1. And table 2 is going to be his parents + his grandfather + his sister/husband/daughter. My brother & his family will be at table 3.
Post # 13
I think it depends on the relationship between in the in laws
… I know my parents will be far away from my in laws!
Post # 14
We sat the families separately, but closer to us. Our table arrangement was 3 long tables parallel to one another and we sat at the head of the middle one. We put my family on the right near me, and my husband’s family was to the left near him.
Post # 15
Oh boy did this ring true for me! My Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law (ESPECIALLY FIL) do not get along with anyone on MIL’s side of family. Father-In-Law has no family..well, that he speaks to. Essentially, both of them have cut everyone out of their lives besides their only son, my Fiance. (I know, lucky me! haha Thankfully Fiance knows how crazy his parents are) Anyways, my Mother-In-Law also wants to be seated with my parents, but my parents are contributing significantly to the wedding and I want them to enjoy themselves, so no way, no how are they being sat with the in-laws. Now my problem is where to sit my in-laws since they don’t get along with anyone…is it weird for them to have their own sweethearts table?;) haha