(Closed) Seating Etiquette?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3080 posts
Sugar bee

Nope. We didn’t do it (late 70s), and my daughter’s didn’t do it. In fact, I’d rather have needles in my eyeballs, than have sat with either set of in laws. Ignore her!

Post # 3
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We seated our parents together.

Post # 4
1354 posts
Bumble bee

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kayah:  I have seen this done at weddings with both sets of parents and grandparents at one table, but I’ve also have seen them seperated. However, I’ll be the first to admit I’m not incredibly knowledgable about this type of etiquette. 

Post # 5
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve never seen that.  I’ve always seen them at separate tables.

Post # 6
8601 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

That’s not true at all. People are normally seated with there own immediate families. 

Post # 7
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I have no idea if it’s etiquette, but I probably won’t be doing it unless the tables would be weird or unbalanced otherwise. My mom has met my Future Mother-In-Law once and really, really didn’t like her (they were all helping us move and Future Mother-In-Law was pretty rude to her). I’m not going to force people to sit together and be unhappy. 

Post # 8
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

generally the parents have a spot “of honor” either at the head tabe, or closest to the bride and groom

we gave each set of parents their own table and sat them with their siblings (so my aunts and uncles)

I wouldn’t seat my parents up at the front and then seat his way in the back next to the bathrooms or something but I think as long as they are equally “nice” then its fine to give each side their own space

Post # 9
6575 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We will be seating our parents together (at our table even– our bridal party will be split across two tables so that they can sit with their spouses/partners/children).

Post # 10
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Our families were at separate tables.  Although our families get along great and all like eachother, the whole “two families become one” was always silly.  My family wants to sit by eachother as Im sure his family did too.

Post # 11
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Hmm i was going to have the sit together because they get along great. No idea on what the etiquette is.

Post # 12
2221 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Never really paid attention… We have 6 person tables so I was planning on puting my parents + both sets of my grandparents at table 1. And table 2 is going to be his parents + his grandfather + his sister/husband/daughter. My brother & his family will be at table 3. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by amberback.
Post # 13
7 posts

I think it depends on the relationship between in the in laws 

… I know my parents will be far away from my in laws! 

Post # 14
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We sat the families separately, but closer to us. Our table arrangement was 3 long tables parallel to one another and we sat at the head of the middle one. We put my family on the right near me, and my husband’s family was to the left near him.

Post # 15
249 posts
Helper bee

Oh boy did this ring true for me! My Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law (ESPECIALLY FIL) do not get along with anyone on MIL’s side of family. Father-In-Law has no family..well, that he speaks to. Essentially, both of them have cut everyone out of their lives besides their only son, my Fiance. (I know, lucky me! haha Thankfully Fiance knows how crazy his parents are) Anyways, my Mother-In-Law also wants to be seated with my parents, but my parents are contributing significantly to the wedding and I want them to enjoy themselves, so no way, no how are they being sat with the in-laws. Now my problem is where to sit my in-laws since they don’t get along with anyone…is it weird for them to have their own sweethearts table?;) haha 

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