Post # 1
Okay, I have our guests all split into groups of 7-8 so they’ll fit at the tables – now I need to decide which tables to put where!
Is there an etiquette to this? We have:
1 table of my friends
1 table of mutual friends
1 table half his friends, half my cousins (dad’s side)
2 tables my family (one each Mom’s and Dad’s side)
1 table half my family (mom’s side), half my parents’ friends
3 tables my parents’ friends
3 tables his parents’ friends
4 tables his family
It seems like family is supposed to be in front; is it rude if I put our parents’ friends in back and our friends (the only people our age!) near the dance floor? Those are the people who I really want to spend time with anyway.
Does it matter much? I think my brain is frying a little bit as we get closer. 12 days til I’m on my honeymoon!
Post # 3
I plan on putting our friends and others who are more likely to dance closest to the dance floor. I’m sorry to be rude to them but my mom’s family (her cousins and whatnot) are mostly 60+ and definitely not dancers….they are sitting in the back. Frankly they’ll probably appreciate being where it is a little quieter and there’s a little less hubbub.
Post # 4
I think it’s best to put your friends closest to the dance floor.. I think it makes total sense!! I think older guests, who really just want to visit with each other with most likely like being away from the dance floor and noise to be honest.
Post # 5
I seriously doubt anyone will scrutinize the way they’re seated! They way you have it sounds perfect.
Post # 6
Our parents actually requested that their friends be next to them, so we obliged. We tried to arrange tables by who knows each other to make people feel more comfortable. Our friends found their way to the dance floor pretty easily anyhow!
Post # 7
I think the tables with each of your parents should be front and center and putting younger friends by the dance floor is always a good idea. Fill everyone else in accordingly.
Post # 8
Both sets of parents actually requested to sit with their friends, rather than family – I think that maybe part of what is tripping me up! Is that not normal?
Post # 9
@ddw: I think so. My parents wanted to sit with their friends too!
Post # 10
@Mrs.KMM: how are you doing your tables? It just seems like either my parents will be way in back (hmm… not necessarily a bad thing! hahaha… just kidding) or else our head table will be surrounded by their friends who we don’t even know!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club
I think its normal to put younger people by the dance floor. We only have two rows, one overlooks the ocean and the other is on the dance floor. We decided to put parents, aunts and uncles on the dance floor, but thats only because we put our friends tabels which are in the bridal party next to our sweetheart table along the back of the room.
The wedding I went to this weekend had friends up front and friends of the parents in the back. I think anythign goes really, just make sure to give close family memebers good seats.
Post # 12
Here’s a general idea of what our room looked like:
Tables 4 and 5 were DH’s and my parents and the people of their choosing (my parent’s wanted friends, his family).
Table 8, 9, 14, and 15 were DH’s and my friends.
Tables 10 and 11 were more family friends / friends of our parents and the rest of the tables were our extended families.
Hope this helps!
Post # 13
Traditionally, the ‘most important ‘ people (family) are seated closest to the bride & groom. That would be immediate, then Aunts & Uncles, then cousins (if invited). Friends and co-workers are seated to the back or farthest away. Depends on how the room is laid out, tho.
The people you like the least (or were forced to invite) are seated closest to the music / kitchen. 😛
Post # 14
Okay, so it’s sideways, but this is the setup our venue offered/wants us to use.
Post # 15
We put the parents and bridal party at tables 1 and 2. Then did my siblings at table 3, his siblings and cousins at table 12 (it’s the next one closest to us/closest to the dance floor, believe it or not), and then mixed family/friends in the remaining tables. I know his sister will make a comment about how my brothers are at table 3 and she’s at table 12, but those tables are equidistant to the head table and the dance floor, so she can just shut up!
Post # 16
Tables 1~8 should be where the closest people to you are seated. (except I’d hate to be at table 1,right in front of the DJ) WAY too loud! The rest you can put anywhere.
Believe me…people DO notice where they’re seated with relation to the bride and groom.