Post # 1
So I believe that, traditionally, the wedding party and closest family sit nearest the bride and groom, then less close family, and then friends, etc. Well our reception seating is kind of odd because there are three different table sizes ad we can’t really determine which ones are nearest us, it’s just whoever fits there. And also my cousins have babies so I am trying to keep them away from the DJ’s speakers. And FI’s parents and grandparents are divorced, so they all need different tables. So this is all getting rather complicated. I managed I think the best I can but I hope no one is offended… for instance we’ll end up with FI’s aunt and uncle and grandma at a table closer to us than either of our parents just due to what size of table their group is and where different sized tables are located. I am bummed that we don’t get to sit close to our friends… do you think they’ll be offended? I tried to make up for it by seating our friends next to a window with an amazing view of the mountains. And also due to party sizes/table sizes, we’re ending up sitting closer to our parents’ friends than our friends.
It’s so hard because, really, we just love everyone and want to have a great time with them! Do you think people will be understanding of the seating arrangements? Any thoughts? Thanks bees!
Post # 2
I think it’s fine. We put a lot of work into table assignments (who sat at a table together) but didn’t put much thought into where each of the tables would go. This was partially laziness and partially on purpose, so you don’t creat a heirarchy and make the people in the back feel third rate.
My husband and I sat with our best man/matron of honor and their families and we ended up in a corner! It was fine, we were at the table for all of 20 minutes to eat. I think the table closest to us was a group of my aunt’s family, who I see once a year at Thanksgiving. My dad and stepmom ended up on the other side of the room. Everyone was scattered all over the place. Nobody cared! As long as you put your tables together well, I don’t think it’s a problem where they go, physically in the room, unless there’s something like stairs or loud speakers to avoid with certain guests.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
nawella: Usually parents sit closest to the head table, but it sounds like there is so much drama that you are doing what works the best for the situation at hand. If only people could get along 🙂
Post # 4
I’d go person by person and think about whether they’d be offended. At our wedding, nothing we did could have pleased my mother-in-law because the wedding was outside and that was the WORST for her. Then the only way to make her happy would have been if she could have sat with us at our table…which was just the two of us. SOOO we made sure she could see us from her table.
So, make sure people who have strong preferences are accommodated as much as possible, and then just make sure you walk around and talk to everyone at their table. We did that, and I know everyone appreciated it.
Post # 5
seating arrangement is hard but I don’t think people will be offended. I just made sure that the parents/closest immediate family (primary table 1 and 2 for my parents/family and his parents/family) are closest to us and the rest are just seating where is most convenient. It’s not really that bad. The middle/end of the night, everyone will be all dispersed, dancing, mingling that it won’t matter where they were sitting anyway. I try to accomodate people with babies and try to keep people who know each other as closest to each as possible but at the end of it all, I’m just happy to have everyone seated!
Post # 6
Okay bees 🙂 thanks so much for your comforting words! I think it’s going to be okay now!!!