(Closed) Seating for Bride/Groom at Reception

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How should we sit at the reception?
    At a sweetheart table : (41 votes)
    55 %
    At a round table for 10 people : (10 votes)
    14 %
    At a large head table with our wedding party and their dates : (23 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My option isnt up there.  At my wedding we will have a head table with Bride, groom, Moh, Best man, and both sets of the parents. The rest of the bridal party will sit together at a round table of 8, this way they can mingle more with their friends or dates.

    Post # 4
    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Could you put 3 or more rectangle tables together to make a squarish shape?  Have a nice centerpiece at that table and it could kind of be like having a larger round table.

    Post # 5
    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    For what it’s worth, I was just at a wedding with a sweetheart table and I don’t think anyone stared at them throughout dinner.  I know the only time I paid attention to them was during the speeches.  Therefore, I don’t think that having a sweetheart table means that you’ll totally be the center of attention the whole time.  Other than the fact that it’s your wedding so you’ll be the center of attention at all times.

    I’ve also been thinking about this and go back and forth between the sweetheart option and the sitting with our parents.  It all depends on the table sizes at my venue.  Otherwise, I find giant head tables really annoying.  In the end, you really can only talk to the person on either side of you so it’s not like you’re making this giant inclusive space.  But that’s just my opinion.

    Post # 6
    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I said large head table, except we didn’t have everyone sit on just one side.  Instead, we had everyone sitting all the way around.  Then, people can talk to more than just the guests on each side of them.

    Post # 7
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We are sitting at a regular round table for ten.  We have a huge wedding party so we decided that our table will have the best man, maid of honor and their dates and our siblings and their dates. that comes out to 10 people.   that way it’s fair and no one in the bridal party feels slighted.

    I will say that i was in a wedding not so long ago where they also sat at a regular table and picked single bridal party members to sit with them.  I was not at that table but rather at a nearby table with my close friends and Fiance and I didn’t feels slighted at all.  it was just logistics.

    Post # 8
    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    yep we ‘chose’ certain wedding party members to sit with us.  The others were kinda all in separate groups so it was cool.  The groomsman all sat together at a table next to us with their people and friends.  My brothers sat with the cousins at another table.  Some of the bridesmaids sat with us and our parents/grandparents all sat together and another table.  Really its no big deal since you won’t be sitting there all night!

    Post # 9
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We are doing a Head Table with just US and both of our parents on each side of us! =)

    Post # 10
    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I totally prefer a sweetheart table for two reasons:

    1. It allows some time to just be alone together.  The day will be so crazy and there will be so many people to talk to that it would be nice to have a few minutes just the two of us.

    2. Being at a head table is no fun for your bridal party or their dates.  We’ve all been there where we are the date of someone in the bridal party and you are forced to sit by yourself with a bunch of people you probably don’t know all that well.  Or on the other side you are in the bridal party and you might not know the rest of the bridal party that well and you would so prefer to be sitting with your date. 

    We are doing a sweetheart table with two round tables on either side of us. One will be the bridesmaids and their dates and the other the groomsmen and their dates.



    Post # 11
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i really wanted to do a big head table with my whole wedding party and date – problem was not all my wedding party had dates and didnt want it to look weird or some of them feel alone up there so i ended up just having 6 of us up there. me and my husband, my Maid/Matron of Honor and her boyfriend and the best man and his wife –  we had thought of putting parents up there but we thought they would prefer to be with their siblings and other family rather than sit us – we were up and down the whole time anyway.

    i love the idea of a sweetheart table too but as much as i like a little bit of attention i didnt want that much attention on just the two of us as we are stuffing our faces haha.

    Post # 12
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I chose sweetheart table. We sat at one and we did not feel like the center of attention at all. Its not like the table is in the middle of the dance floor on its own. I really enjoyed being able to eat in peace with my husband and not having to talk to other people. It was one of the few times that my husband and I had alone time and I really enjoyed it!

    Post # 13
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    You will hardly sit at your wedding reception, so don’t worry about being in the spotlight all night.  We had a sweetheart table, but we were actually seated for 15 minutes, tops, including speeches and eating.

    Post # 14
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, with a sweetheart table I feel like it draws LESS attention to you.  We’ll be doing one and I usually recommend them to my brides and grooms.

    It gives you time to talk, to eat, and have some peace and enjoy the moment… but also allows you to get up and greet people whenever you want without feeling like you’re abandoning the rest of your table. 

    It makes it less awkward for the rest of your table during toasts – no one is taking loads of pictures of them trying to figure out how to look at you without makng a funny face 🙂

    And with today’s families and bridal parties a lot of times it’s just easier! 

    Good luck 🙂

    Post # 15
    47 posts
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I am going to say Sweetheart table.  My Fiance is also against it because he doesn’t want to be the center of attention, but previous posters are absolutely right.  You’re not going to be sitting hardly at all and it takes away the stress of who to sit with.  This way you eat real quick and circulate, giving equal time to all your guests!

    Post # 16
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think your best bet is the sweetheart table. Like you, we wanted our wedding party to sit with dates and friends so we split them up and put them at the tables near to us. Like PPs have mentioned, no one starred at us other than the toasts and it was nice to have a few minutes to chat and take it all in. We spent most of dinner away from our table anyway so it worked out fine.

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