(Closed) Seating guests at the “bad table”

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are you having kids at your wedding? Would it work to put familes with kids there? I don’t know the drawback is if they have to watch their kids they can’t also be involved in the wedding, but the kids themselves are less likely to care about what is going on. 

I wouldn’t put anyone drama prone there, cause you know they will likely cause a scene.

Post # 4
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are there any groups of college guy friends who wouldn’t care if they saw your entrance and dances and everything? I would be PISSEDDDD if I got a gift and made a trip to a wedding and was tucked away behind a wall… Nobody puts baby in the corner!!! But seriously put the least-likely-to-care people there, I never get mad about things at weddings but that would actually bother me.

Post # 5
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i think those are both great ideas. i’m the kinda person that wouldn’t mind being put where i can plop down after dancing my hind end of and no one seeing me sweat to death. haha.

Post # 6
3142 posts
Sugar bee

I also vote kids/teens if possible. Most of them couldn’t give two-hoots if they see those things. You could even ‘trick out’ that area like it was supposed to be that way with some special favours or something geared towards them maybe?

Post # 7
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would just make sure Grandma and Grandpa, your favorite aunt, your closest cousins, etc. don’t end up there. Friends from work, kids and teens, and people in general that you don’t know as well are the ones that should be put there. I know it sounds bad, but as you said, someone has to sit there.

Post # 8
46595 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My preferences in order:

1. Squeeze 2 more tables into the main room until dinner and speeches are done. I would even use the dance floor if that is a better location and have the staff take down those tables after dinner, before the first dance. The people at those tables could be directed to the tables in the sunroom.

 I would be upset if I couldn’t see what was going on. I wouldn’t say anything but I definitely would not be happy about it.

I don’t think it is an issue not to see the dance floor.

2. Use mirrors creatively so people can see what is going on.

3. Seating the kids there might backfire as kids want to see what is happening. If they hear someone speaking and see everyone else looking in that direction, they will get up out of their chairs and move to where they can see. It will be challenging for their parents.

Post # 9
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hmm…It is hard to say not knowing your guest list but my friend had a similar problem so she put her FI’s poker buddies behind the wall with cards and chips. (They said it was the best wedding they ever went to!) She sat their wives together in the main room everyone was more or less happy with the arrangement. Alternatives would be other board game type fun. Other entertainment besides you guys might help. Don’t know your guests so I am not sure if that helps..

Post # 10
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you have a cake table, gift table, or favor table in the main area, could you switch things around?  I don’t think people would mind going into a semi-separate room for any of those things.

Post # 11
2701 posts
Sugar bee

Kids table, definitely. I agree with PPs that I would be a bit miffed if I didn’t get to see anything.

Post # 12
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

It wouldn’t bother me if you sat me there, because I understand that someone has to be there. Your friends that have recently wed might also understand this and therefore not be bothered. 

Post # 13
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not sure a kids or teens table is so great, when I was a kid and a teen I LOVED to see what was going on at weddings, and I think that watching the events will keep kids more occupied and quiet than putting them in a separate area.


@MissBananaBread: I second this, any space being used for anything other than guest seating should be rearranged. Any chance you could squeeze two tables in the main room?

Post # 14
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I second a few of those suggestions.  I think making it a “Kids Area” would be really fun- the tables could have kid friendly decor, activities, and treats.  If it gets a bit loud, it’s a great spot for it! 

If this isn’t possible, I also second putting gift/card table, or even food out there and the 2 guest tables in the main room.  I don’t think there’s really any way you can choose to put {adult} guests back there without hurt feelings. 

Post # 15
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hah. When I saw the topic, I thought it was where the “bad” guests have to sit. Like the “time-out” chair. Drink too much at the open bar and make a nuisance of yourself to great aunt-Mildred? It’s the bad table for you, buster! 🙂

I think the suggestions offered so far have been pretty good. I especially like the idea of relocating other things from the main room to that area, or else putting the tables on the dance floor and moving them after dinner. 


Post # 16
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had a few tables that were further away from the dance floor/wedding party table/bar. We placed some school friends there who we knew would be up on the dance floor anyways, and some friends who had young children because it wasn’t so loud. 

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