(Closed) Seating – head table or sweetheart.

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What are you seating plans?
    Traditional Headtable? : (31 votes)
    24 %
    Kings table? : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Sweetheart table? : (73 votes)
    56 %
    Standard round table? : (17 votes)
    13 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i don’t like sweatheart tables unless you are an older couple. thats just my personal opinion. 

    Post # 4
    1458 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I always thought we’d do a traditional head table… but I realized it’d be awkward for most of our wedding party and their dates. No one really sits there for long anyway, but I figure if I was a bridesmaid, I’d prefer to be able to sit with my SO. Not a huge deal either way. Aesthetically, I think it looks nicer without a big long table up front, but that’s just my opinion. 

    Post # 5
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We are having a laid back reception before we leave for our private Destination Wedding. I think we are having a sweetheart table? I just can’t see having 1 table with the 3 of us (FI, our daughter, I) and the other 15 tables with 8 people at them lol! Maybe this is common… I’m not sure?

    But when I was in my little sister’s wedding in December, there was a head table. I don’t like that idea personally. My BFF is doing a head table for her wedding next month and I am just thinking “and the spouses and dates are going to sit where?” Fiance and I have been together for almost 8 years so when he and our daughter couldn’t sit at the head table with me-it wasn’t a big deal since he knew everyone. And I was the only one in the bridal party who had a SO. 

    But with the BM/MOH/GM/BM whose spouses don’t know everyone at the wedding, is there some sort of designanted table? Like “Dates of the Bridal Party?” I am just confused on that.

    Post # 6
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t know what a King’s Table is. Hmm…

    We’re doing a “head table” as in, we’ll be sitting with the bridal party. But its not raised or at the focal point in  the room–its just another round table like all the rest.

    Post # 7
    2602 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Not big on the sweetheart table, personally. I find it a bit…reclusive.

    Post # 8
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I commented on the other thread but I voted “other”. We sat at a standard round table with our parents and DH’s brother/SIL. Doing this allowed the remainder of our Bridal Party and their SO’s to fit perfectly at the 8 top right next to us. It worked out perfectly for us.

    I don’t like head tables for a number of reasons. For starters, they almost always force Bridal Party members to be separated from their SO’s. I don’t care if it’s “just for dinner”, it still sucks. Then there’s the whole inability to have a conversation with anyone but your neighbor thing. I think they’ll be a thing of the past eventually (hopefully soon, lol). 

    As for sweetheart tables, that’s not exactly my cup o’ tea either but only because I don’t like the idea of being on display while I’m trying to scarf down my dinner. We have friends who went the sweetheart route though and it worked out well for them. 

    Post # 9
    2414 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Sweetheart table all the way.

    I don’t like head tables…I would prefer if our bridal party got to sit with their own SO’s.

    Post # 10
    2007 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    At first I found the sweetheart table really awkward, but then once I saw it all setup for a wedding at our venue I really liked it.


    Post # 11
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I chose other.  I don’t want our wedding party to be away from their SO’s and I want to be with our parents.  Our reception tables are round and seat 8 so I decided to have our table in the middle of everyones and have my mom and dad and FI’s mom and dad sit with us and have two open chairs so anyone can come by and sit for minute to chat while we eat. Wow that was a long run on sentence, lol.  I know we won’t be sitting for very long anyway so I don’t want to make it a big deal. 🙂

    Post # 12
    1477 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My fiance and I couldn’t agree on this. We kinda combined the two. We made it extra long, and had big floral arrangements on wine barrels on both sides of us, making our table like a sweetheart table.

    Post # 13
    959 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We will be doing the sweetheart table. I’m not a fan of the tables who seat the bride and groom along with their entire wedding party. It feels too croweded. The only other option I had thought of was sitting with our parents but then again, Fiance wasn’t into the idea because he wanted to be alone so we can talk and what not.

    Post # 14
    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’re having a head table. It’s traditional, easy for speeches, and dates can deal. They’ll know other people or can make new friends.

    Post # 15
    22 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Hmmm, I’ve been on the other end of head tables where my fiance was in the Bridal Party and I was stuck with people I didn’t really know ( We had only been dating for about a year, and it was his sister from out of town’s wedding and I had never met that part of his family) and it totally sucks. Maybe a sweetheart table? I’d be interested to ask a photographer what looks better.

    Post # 16
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Sweetheart table. Most of our bridal party would rather sit with their spouses and children. We wont be at the table much anyway (the dancing, cake cutting, moving from table to table talking to our guests, etc). I never really liked the head table anyway. Seems like Fiance and I wouldnt get much privacy when we want just a moment to say something to each other or look into each others’ eyes and steal a kiss without the Bridesmaid or Best Man or MOHs being in side view. 

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