Post # 1
our wedding will probably have around 200 guests, and the reception is going to be food stations and hors d’oeuvres, dancing, fun time. We’d like to have several high tables around the hors d’oeuvres and low tables for seating (plus bridal party head table).
so we’re looking at other seating arrangements like this that have been at our reception site, and my mom’s totally in to it, right on page with the event coordinator at the site. But, these seating arrangements only have seating for around 175 guests. Her rationalization is that people will be milling about, chatting, standing, having a great time, blah blah.
At first I didn’t really care, but then I went to a wedding where there wasn’t a seating chart and there wasn’t ample seating for everyone. Or, there was enough seating for everyone, but like 4 people would sit at a table and no one knew them so no one else would sit there. Awkward. and I ended up not having a seat. And I felt really out of place and not welcome and bad. and my feet hurt. (not hating on girls that aren’t doing a seating chart, I don’t want the hassle and this isn’t elementary school, but these people made it hard).
So, my mom still doesn’t really see the point in a seating chart (or at least table numbers) and thinks it’s not worth it. I’m afraid people will have a bad time if they can’t rest their feet.
suggestions? thoughts? am I freaking out for no reason? should I just put on my big girl panties and make my own seating chart? probably.
Post # 3
i agree with you. i would buckle down and make a seating chart.
Post # 4
I’m confused. Does your venue only have seating for 175 people and you’re inviting 200?
Post # 5
So you’re going to have 200 guests and 175 seats? You can’t do a seating chart in that case.
Post # 6
no, it was just possible seating arrangements. it’s a 1920s car dealership with lots of antique cars, so they’d have to move several more cars to be able to fit everyone.
Post # 7
I would make sure you have enough chairs for all the guests and have seating arrangements. Even at weddings with food stations I’ve noticed that most people tend to all sit down around the same time to eat and I hate to be separated from friends/family or be the odd one out at a table.
Plus I always think it’s nice to have a reserved seat to place my purse/jacket on. If you don’t have assigned seating/enough seats people wouldn’t be able to do that.
Post # 8
Are you going to start the dancing as soon as people come in? I think you need to go with more seating, or less. If its obvious that there is only enough seating for less than half the people, younger people will probably leave it open for the older folks to sit (I hope anyway). If you only have 25 people without chairs, they might feel really awkward.
Post # 9
I’ve been to both types of weddings and have always preferred having a seat vs. the random find a seat wherever you wish. What I noticed at my own wedding (w/ seating chart) is that people milled around – but ultimately had a ‘base camp’ in which to park themselves for certain things (like toasts, parent dances, etc.). The non-seating chart is a bit anxiety producing, IMO – and I think you almost have to have an extra table or two – since people likely won’t fill tables in their entirety (to sit with strangers).
Post # 10
I prefer to have a seat! The Martha Stewart website has an amazing seating chart tool. It lets you completely customize the layout of the room (or rooms) and you can do either round or rectangular tables. If you go to the her wedding site then you go to “My Tools” you will see one that says “My seating” – it is very easy to move guests around and I actually didnt mind doing it through this tool! You have to register with her site but its free