Post # 1
We know that we are going to have wedding crashers. We also know that there is a family member that will try to come (uninvited) as well that could be the cause of a scene. In order to avoid the crashers, our venue is perfectly set-up but I need your help and opinions!
The ceremony will take place on stage in a theatre. There are only 2 doors at the top of the theatre and will be manned by ushers as well as venue staff. Because of the venue (and our programs being playbills, theme, etc.) would it be tacky for guests to have to give their name at the door so that the usher has to check them off? This would prevent crashers for the ceremony.
We have the building to ourselves this night and the reception will follow in the lobby. The reception may prove trickier but it’s mostly the ceremony we’re concerned with.
Thanks for your help bees!
Post # 3
@MasqueradeMom: WOW what a bunch of inconsiderate people! This should be ya’lls day and it’s about marrying the love of your life. So sorry you have to deal with nonsense! Well, I would ask a trusted person, i.e. Maid/Matron of Honor, a Bridesmaid or Best Man or someone like that to keep an eye out. Hopefully you’re only dealing with a few select people. If they show up, have them discretely ask them to leave (to avoid a scene). I do agree it would be a bit tacky to have a check list. It sounds like your venue is pretty well monitored, with only having 2 doors and all. MAybe even have someone talk to them before hand and explain that your having a smaller intimate wedding (if you are or not, maybe they’ll get the hint) and to not take it personally. Try to avoid posts on facebook and Twitter, so you won’t accidently give out any unwanted details. I have the psycho aunt who is coming and we had to invite her. She won’t cause a scene, but I hated I had to include her. That’s the thing with families, generally it’s an all cousins or no cousins kind of thing if you see where I’m getting at. Yeah, they may be a little put out, but at the end of the day it’s about what you want and your special day. Best of luck:)
Post # 4
If you know who you expect to crash can you just let he ushers know about htem in advance? Howa bout tickets, I think that fits the venue theme but not sure everyone will remember to bring htem or think you’re serious.
Post # 5
Is it possible for you to enclose some sort of ticket-esque card with the ceremony and/or reception time/venue on it? Like, “Please present this card, etc.” It would fit with your theme, and would help with the issue.
Otherwise, I like what caric813 said about having some of your bridal party or family members keep an eye out.
Post # 6
Yeah, we thought about tickets as well. My thought was what if someone loses them? Do you think they will not come then? I thought it was a cool idea because it went with the theme, I just don’t want people to get half way to the wedding and go “oh, I forgot the tickets”. Your thoughts ladies?
Post # 7
Maybe do the tickets and then if they did forget it you would have the list as a back up. Then you would not have to stop everyone just the ones who forget. But if you have smart crashers who would just pick the name of someone they know was invited you might need name and ID for those who forget tickets.