(Closed) Seating Parents when they are divorced

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have divorced parents that hate each other so I can sympathize. However, they are adults and should be able to act civil to one another for one day. I was not going to cater to their drama on my big day. I suggest you seat people where you will and hopefully all adults involved will act as such. 

Post # 3
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I can’t understand grown adults who act like children.

I don’t recommend catering to their drama on your wedding day. Seat people where you want to seat them and hopefully they’re decent enough people to get over their pettiness for one single day.

Post # 4
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can mix the two sides.

put siblings in the middle on the first row.

or dad sits in the second row. (which is what happened at my wedding)

Post # 5
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was in a similar boat. Thankfully my parents and step-parents are all civil people, so they were able to suck it up and all sit on the same side in the front row. (I stuck my brother and his family in between them, ha!) At the reception, each set of parents had their own table with their own relatives/friends. It worked out nicely.

I agree with the PP, just sit them where you would like them. Don’t give any credibility to the idea that they deserve separate accommodations simply because they can’t behave like grownups. 😉

Post # 6
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Do you have grandparents? We put my mom, my two grandparents, then my dad and step mom.

Post # 7
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We have the same situation on FI’s side. We’re not catering to the drama and if his mother can’t behave she more than welcome to not even come to the ceremony. 

His mother and stepfather will sit on the same side, in the same aisle as her ex and his wife. There will be two seats between them. They will have to deal. We’re not playing her games. 


Post # 8
6584 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

julesbeeb:  I have divorced parents, as does my Darling Husband, and our motto for all things wedding related was “suck it up”. There is NO reason, despite their personal feelings on each other, why they can’t sit on the same row for 15 minutes out of an entire day. I feel like any parent who can’t put their own drama aside doesn’t deserve to be there.

We sat both my parents (and their SO’s) on the front row, with my brothers girlfriend (now wife) in between them. DH’s parents all get along, despit their divorce, and so it was never an issue.

Post # 9
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

julesbeeb:  We had them in the same row, same side of the aisle, with someone in between. Fortunately there are 3 of us siblings so there has always been someone to sit in between.

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