Post # 1
Did you assign specific seats or just specific tables at your wedding? Every wedding I’ve ever been to only assigned a table number, not a specific seat at that table. But online, I’ve seen tons where the guest is assigned to a specific seat. I have no clue what I should do! On one hand, assigning seats seems more personal and formal…but it also seems like a lot more work, and requires extra $$$ for place cards (in addition to escort cards). What’s the norm? Will guests balk at not having an assigned seat at a more formal wedding?
Post # 2
- Wedding: Cottage on the Creek
well i think you wouldn’t have a place card and an excort card – i’ve seen posters/nice signs that list people alphabetically and then list their table number. that being said I like flexibility as to the actual seat I sit at. I don’t want to be right under a vent while a guy in a suit might not care 🙂
Post # 3
annb9: Your guests will trade seats amongst themselves at the table, if the seating assignment doesn’t work for them. I wouldn’t bother assigning seats.
Post # 4
The very least table seating should be assigned. Assigned seats is necessary if you are doing a plated meal and servers need to know who gets what meal.
Post # 5
We had a smallish 50 guest wedding of family and friends, so initially we just thought to do open seating. Everyone mostly knew each other already. But we did want to put both sets of parents in specific places, and because we had so few guests we just went ahead and picked seats for everyone else. This is because we did three long tables instead of a bunch of round ones. There was a lot of mingling and going back for seconds and thirds (we had a taco cart) so overall no one was really glued to their seats for very long.
Ultimately I don’t think anyone will balk at not having assigned seating. Having a table to go to is really all that matters, because you don’t want people bunching up chairs at one table and having empty seats at another.
Post # 6
annb9: You don’t have place cards AND escort cards – you have one or the other. Having place cards is more formal. So I’d say it all depends on your wedding and the look/feel you are going for.
If you do place cards, you should also have a poster, or board of some sort that lists which table people are at so they don’t go around touching everyone’s place setting to find their name.
If your wedding is very formal (like black tie), go for the place cards. If it is less formal (like cocktail dress), the escort cards is apropriate.
Post # 7
Our wedding was small, 47 people. The tables were arranged in a “U” shape so not really any distinction from one table to the other and I assigned seats. If you have the standard seating were there are 8-10 people per table I would just assign a table.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
I think it depends on the wedding size and formality. We had 12 guests so we just let people sit where they wanted but if there were more Id assign just the table numbers.
Post # 9
theatrejulia: “Assigned seats is necessary if you are doing a plated meal and servers need to know who gets what meal.”
Not always though. The last few weddings I’ve been to had plated meals, but only table assignments. At a some, waiters came around and asked everyone what they’d requested, and at others the escort cards (that you took to your seat with you) had a stamp or sticker to indicate what you’d chosen. I’m not sure I’ve ever been to a wedding with assigned seats, now that I think about it….
Post # 10
annb9: We did a seating chart with placecards on the table (no escort cards – they would be redundant)
We had to have assigned seating per our caterer for the purposes of meal choices – it was pre-determined and assigned seating meant everyone got their meals correctly and quickly – the cards were colour coded just in case.
Post # 11
annb9: We have a lot of vegetarians, allergies and intolerances so have assigned specific seating and given the venue a detailed seating plan with each persons requirements listed next to their name
Post # 12
annb9: just assign them table numbers. Unless you want some specific favor to be given to them or as mentioned the venue needs to know where they are sitting i wouldn’t bother.
Post # 13
annb9: I voted other. We’re having 2 long “kings” tables and the rest are rounds. We’re assigning tables to everyone, but are doing seating cards for the long tables as well. My planner said it’s confusing for people to seat themselves when each long table holds 20 people.
Also since I’m mixing up some groups of friends at those long tables and I know who should be near eachother (and who should stay away from each other!) so seat assingments should help that. We’re having plated meal as well.
Post # 14
I would just assign table numbers but let guest choose where they want to sit.
Post # 15
We assigned tables and had escort cards. Some times people assign seats because of the meal or other reasons. One or the other is perfectly acceptable.
I made the escort cards myself – I found a free template online and just added the names and printed them on cardstock. Done.