Post # 1
Discussion. Is the Reserving seats in their honor rude? What do YOU think?
We wanted to write it like this:
(2) Seats have been reserved in your honor.
___ of 2 will be attending.
What do you think? If you think it’s NOT rude, do we need periods at the end or does it look stupid? Thanks!
Post # 3
I think a lot of people are doing this now. We won’t be but not because we think it’s rude, I am just doing the ‘____How many attending’ line. No periods though.
Post # 4
i dont think it is rude. We will be doing the same thing. I think it will help avoid people assuming they can bring their kids or a date…
i would leave out the periods
Post # 5
We did this. I personally don’t think it’s rude. I think that it is just clarification (we didn’t use inner envelopes). We didn’t use periods.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s rude. We are wording it
we have reserved ____ seat(s) in your honor
____ will attend ____ will not attend
No puncutation and all small caps. We decided to word it this way so as to avoid verb-tense issue with “1 seat HAS been reserved” vs. “2 seats HAVE been reserved”. It’s a nit-picky thing that probably no one will notice, but it bothered me.
Post # 8
It’s not rude at all. I’ve yet to receive an invitation that didn’t have that wording.
Post # 9
We did this, we didnt have anyone add a random guest, and we didn’t have anyone say they thought it was rude. Instead, everyone understood exactly how many guests where invited (except one person who apparently can’t read and is bringing his 25 year old girlfriend, he’s in his 40s…)
Post # 10
I don’t think it’s rude at all. My response card says
__ Graciously Accepts
__ Regretfully Declines
We have reserved ______ seat(s) in your honor.
Post # 11
We worded our exactly like babu22. No one has added any guests yet or been offended. We did have one cousin who likes to joke and pretended to be upset because a baby wasn’t given a seat.
Post # 12
I find it off-putting. It implies that your guests don’t know not to bring extra people. Or ensures them that you won’t be stacking guests… “We’ve invited three of you, but we’re only giving you two seats. Get ready for some lap-sitting!!” 😉
To me, it’s awkward. I know it’s fairly common now, and if I received an invitation with this line I wouldn’t think that the bride and groom were insulting me. But I did not include it on my reply cards because I find it a little condescending to say this to my guests. (And I can’t help but think about requiring guests to sit on laps, or a musical-chairs scenario – when the music stops everyone will have to rush for a seat because we only reserved 4 in honor of your family of 5! Silly, but it’s what the line always has made me think!)
If you choose to include the phrase you would not use punctuation afterward.
Post # 13
I didnt do this and now that we are getting RSVP’s back with suprises I wish we would have. I dont think its rude at all. The only reason I didnt do it was because Fiance and I were lazy and didnt want to print a different number for each RSVP card.
Now I wish we would have.
Post # 14
Not at all rude. I think it clarifies the invitation and gives guests a clear guideline as to whom they should bring. As a guest, I appreciate knowing exactly what the host intended, so I’m all for it!
Post # 15
I don’t find it rude, and I totally understand the concept behind it, but I do find it a bit overly formal, at least for my guest list. I think the rules of “if you’re not given a guest on the envelope, you can’t bring a guest” are a bit too hazy; not everyone knows this. So I see why forcing the guests to look at their seat count can be really helpful. But personally I’d rather just deal with those extra guests one by one, personally, by phone or email.
Post # 16
Hi MsMindle. We thought about wording it that way but what if only 1 of Couple comes? We need a way to know that both of them are coming, or only 1 of them. Ya know?