Post # 1
i was reading an interesting article today about it “secondary infertility” and how it can take you much longer to concieve a second child. was this the case for any bees?
It only took us 6 weeks to concieve our first which is hardly any time at all. I guess I’m wondering if it’ll take us longer this time x
Post # 2
Though there is such a thing as secondary fertility, if you had an easy time conceiving your first, it’s very very much more likely that you’ll have an easy time conceiving your second than that you’ll have secondary infertility. We conceived first cycle after my first period off birth control for my first, and the first time I ovulated after having my first with my second.
Post # 3
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The odds are heavily in your favor. IMO, there’s no sense in looking for something negative to concern yourself with when you have no control to be able to prevent that negative thing from occurring in the first place. Life is too short for that. If it happens, you’ll deal because you have no other choice. Until that moment in time, be happy and banish the concerning thoughts.
Post # 4
I had the opposite — I guess you’d say “primary infertility” followed by “secondary fertility.” First baby was hard to cenceive, second baby happened right away.
As others have said, you never know what’s going to happen until it does. Odds are, everything will go well for you. And if not, there are doctors/drugs/procedures today that can do wonders.
Post # 5
MsKeee: thank you that is great to know! is there much age difference between your 2?
lovekiss: thank you for your advice, you are right! I know I am being silly, I’m blessed already so shouldn’t be so glass half empty!
stillme: ahhh exactly, doctors can do wonders these days & besides I’m very blessed with a beautiful daughter. There are others much less fortunate x
Post # 6
Winterbride_England: I’m a mama with secondary infertility. We did not even try to get pregnant with our daughter, she was a missed pill surprise! She was a completely healthy baby, but in the 3rd trimester I started having some troubling symptoms like passing out randomly and was eventually diagnosed post partum with an autoimmune disorder. Spent the first 9 months of Dirty Delete life battling that with steroids before being told I was in the clear. Fast forward to November 2012, we decided to try again. Conceiving was still on our side, and I got a BFP the first month trying which ended in MC at 5 weeks. Got pregnant again in February, MCed again at 6 weeks, got pregnant again in April, MCed at 7 weeks. Took some time off for prelim testing, got pregnant again in October and had a MMC in a December at 10 weeks. I was referred to a reproductive endocrinologist who found a separate autoimmune issue from the one I had following DD’s birth which has strong links with recurrent early miscarriage. I’m now on SO much medication and am 6 weeks along, hopefully 5th time lucky. So it’s been a 2 year battle for us.
Going into trying to have a second child I never thought we’d have this much trouble, but you just don’t know until you get there. Since becoming more public with our troubles other couples have come out of the woodwork with their secondary infertility. I really didn’t even know it was a thing before it happened to us. But for everyone who has trouble, there are way more people who have no problems at all. Good luck!
Post # 7
Winterbride_England: they’re going to be a few months shy of two years apart! Also literally all of the ladies in my mom group with same age kiddos are currently pregnant, and they all got pregnant quickly – including the ones that struggled with their first.
Post # 8
stillme: My mom was the same… it took her 11 years to have her first baby, and than bam… I got in there right away! Within 15 months of her first child she had her second out and ready to go!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry.
I conceived my first on our second month actively trying and I conceived my second on our third month of not trying, not preventing.
Post # 10
Winterbride_England: it took one try to conceive our first and two cycles to conceive our second.
Post # 11
Winterbride_England: My first son as concieved when we weren’t trying.
Then I was diagnosed with PCOS last Fall and was told it wouldn’t be surprising if we needed help while trying to concieve this time. Again- I got pregnant when we were ready, but weren’t actually trying. He was pulling out, to be honest.
Post # 12
Winterbride_England: This was the case for me. Darling Husband and I conceived our first by accident about 6 years ago. Started ttc #2 in July 2012 (which included one ectopic and one early MC) and I am only just now 27 weeks pregnant. We did end up going to an RE who uncovered a few issues (possible scar tissue in my right tube from the ectopic, low ovarian reserve, slightly elevated thyroid). We tried 3 cycles of Femara which did not work and then the very next cycle I got pregnant naturally. I had been on thyroid medication for a couple of months at that point so that probably helped. Hopefully that is not the case for you hun. GL!