(Closed) Second baby soon after first

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

The thought of paying for daycare for two kids that close in age gives me hives, personally. But daycare is exceptionally expensive where we live. Taking multiple years off of work isn’t really an option in my science career, so we would not have a choice but to pay for it.

Post # 4
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

I have a sad story, I was young 21 and had my first child, then I got pregnant right away, within 4 months. My doctor said, becasue I had a ceasarian, I should have an abortion, I would rip my belly if I had the baby full term! So I had to listen, he scared me with the details of what “may” have happened. I am now 47 and still grieve for that baby.

I think children close in age get along better than those who aren’t. They get to be playmates and keep each other company. Then you won’t have one “babysitting” the other and cursing you for ruining their date night when they are teens!

Post # 5
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@happyface:  That is just horrible he told you that! You could have been induced a few weeks early. I cannot believe he told you that. 🙁  I have to have a c-section for my pregnancy and my doctor said it is fine to get pregnant again right away, but I’ll have to be induced at 38-39 weeks to prevent (hopefully) going into labor.


I have to have IVF for any future children (3 mos. pregnant), so if we want to have a 2nd child, we have to act very, very fast. I have diminished reserve and a fibroid problem, so my RE said if we do want a 2nd child after this one, we can’t wait more than a few months.

I prefer children in age a few years apart, but for me that just isn’t an option.

Post # 6
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My cousin accidently had her second child close to her first and was seriously stressed to high heaven and about to rip her hair out when they were both little.  It isn’t so bad now that they are a bit older (4 and 5 now) but she’s explicitly told me she would never recommend having them that close together to anyone.

Post # 7
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know LOTS of Mommies with babies close in age. While the first 3-4 years are ROUGH the children seem to really enjoy having each other as playmates and Mom enjoys their sibling playtime. However, we are waiting about 5 years before even thinking about another because of my schooling and FIs work. I think that if you are a) financially ready, b) emotionally ready, and c) have lots of patience that a 2nd child this close is totally worth it!


Post # 8
1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am pregnant with my first and have been thinking of how long we should wait to have our second. Darling Husband wants to wait until the LO is a few years old…I would like to start trying when they are about 15 months, so that way our LO will be at least 2 if not older when the second baby is born. I think thats a good age gap 🙂

Post # 9
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are planning on trying to get pregnant right away again due to my age, I’m 33. 

Post # 10
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

With me turning 38 this month and Fiance already 40, and not planning on TTC till next summer, if we are successful we will be trying right away for #2. I’ll go back to work right away and basically I’ll get in however many hours I need to qualify for the 2nd mat leave by the due date for when/if baby 2 comes along.

Sucks, would like some space, but if they want us to be parents to them they have to come close together!!


Post # 11
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think this is a “to each there own” type thing.  Personally,  I think it would be really great in later years to have a sibling that close in age.  For me,  I would like to get diaper duty over with,  I can’t imagine having a potty trained kid and then going for another.

Post # 12
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think people like whatever they grew up with.  My brother and I are 6 years apart and that worked really great for us.  We were each treated like only children and never felt like we were in any way in competition with each other, (which I know a lot of siblings close in age feel).

Darling Husband is only two years younger than his sister and he loves the small age difference because they were best friends growing up.

Either one works.  

Well probably compromise on a 4 year difference.  I don’t want to have ot be paying two college tuitions at once!

Post # 13
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@happyface:  I can’t believe your doctor would tell you that, I am so sorry. My mom had me via C-section and got pregnant with my brother 3 months later, and her pregnancy went fine. She always said that it was overwhelming but fun!

Post # 14
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m not a mom but my Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law are parents and their children are only 14 months apart. They purposely wanted to have baby #2 fairly quickly after baby #1. They thought it would be great to have babies so close in age. Well, they ended up having twins. Now they have 3 babies under 20 months old and they’re miserable.

Post # 15
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our first and second children were seperated by a little under 3 years and I think that was a good spacing. I was able to concentrate on the baby without neglecting the older one because she wasn’t as dependant as a baby. But I got preggo with our third when the second was only 9 months old. It is absolute craziness now with a 10 month old and a 29 month old. I would suggest to at least wait until the first is out of diapers. I am up to my elbows in poop and pee and messes, and both of them waned to be held ALL>THE>TIME. I’ve also read that you should give your body 18 months to fully heal internally after giving birth before having another one. I noticed that in my third pregnancy, I had a few more issues than I did with my first two, and I think it was because I wasn’t fully recoperated from having our middle son.

Post # 16
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@crayfish:  Ugh…agreed. The daycare around here is insane…you’d have to be making pretty decent money for it to be worth working with two kids in daycare…yikes!

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