Post # 1
I have to start out by saying that I am a huge animal lover. I’ve had either a dog, cat, or horse in my life since I was born! Around 7 months ago, Fiance and I adopted a shepherd mix and it has been amazing. I clicked with this dog right away, and he’s been my baby ever since. He goes on errands with me, visits friends with me, and is just an all around wonderful companion. We also got really lucky with him- he loves everyone, has wonderful manners, and learns new things very quickly.
He hates being left alone, though. We’ve had to work to get him to the point that he doesn’t whine and howl CONSTANTLY while we’re gone. Several people suggested getting a buddy for him right then, but we ultimately decided that we wanted to get a second dog for the right reasons, not just to “cure” our first dog. Now that our dog does so much better being alone (he rarely barks or howls, though he’s clearly still not crazy about being on his own) we have been revisiting the idea of getting another dog.
On the one hand, our dog likes playing with other dogs at the dog park and has never acted jealous when we gave attention to other dogs. So he might really enjoy having a buddy. We can afford a second dog, so that’s not a concern. We both love animals, too, and would love to give another rescue dog a good home.
The flip side, though, is that I worry that maybe our dog would hate going from being the only pet to having another dog around- as much as he likes other dogs, he is very people oriented too. Plus, I worry about the logistics of taking TWO dogs with me all the time the way I currently do with the one dog. I’d hate to stop doing that because the first dog loves it so much. Also, our apartment is smallish- we don’t have any intentions of getting a huge dog, but it’s still something to think about.
Am I crazy to be this concerned about it? My Fiance really wants another dog, and I’m not sure if my concerns are valid or I’m just being silly. The shelter where we got our first dog allows you to take dogs on a two week trial period, so if was an all out disastor we could take the new dog back, but I would feel so awful doing that.
Post # 2
Your worries are completely valid! i would introduce them on neutral grounds first, never inside the original dogs turf. Maybe even take the dog to the shelter and see if the pooch makes a connection with another dog? I’m sure they can accommodate this for you guys!
Post # 3
Having a second dog was AMAZING for my parents’ first dog. He behaved better, he was more enthusiastic, and they love each other so much. They’re a handful (both 90ish pounds, one GSD, one Great Pyrenees shepherd mix) but after some training, my 4’11, 110lb mother can take the two of them for walks solo.
Post # 4
Many people have multi dog households with success. If you have the means and your current dog is social I do not see how it would be a problem. My recommendation is to do lots of walks with the potential new dog and your current dog together to see how they get along.
Post # 5
Darling Husband and I took our first dog everywhere with us, as much as we could. However, when we got a second dog, it got exponentially more difficult to take them both with us. I will typically only take the two dogs somewhere if Darling Husband is with me. Although they are fairly well behaved, having two dogs on a leash when trying to multitask is near impossible for me. I can’t bear to leave one at home (they have a hard enough time when I take one on a run with me before coming back to switch dogs).
Post # 6
I have three and yes it is great and a pain at the same time. One thing you may consider and I know it sounds silly, but you maybe you can get your dog a cat..lol.
My son’s cat is a total biatch. She literally only likes my son as people go. But she loves my crusty Boston. My Boston isn’t even good with other dogs and doesn’t socialize much with my other two but her and that cat play all the time. They cuddle and romp around the house.
So if a second dog is questionable I’d honestly say maybe try a cat. You don’t have to take it with you everywhere, it would be a different type of affection you give it (they curl up anywhere on you) if you got it as a kitten and it learned your dog was it’s friend it could turn out great.
But a second dog is still good..lol. Heck get them all…I did!
Post # 7
You’re not crazy. I had the exact same concerns about getting a 2nd dog. Before I was married, it was just me and mine. She went EVERYWHERE with me. When I got married, I inherited a 2nd dog which resulted in a big change. It just wasn’t practical to tote two dogs around. Losing my little travel buddy was really upsetting to me. She would get so excited when she knew I was going somewhere and I felt awful leaving her behind. I’d like to think that she’s gotten better at staying behind or maybe I’m just getting more comfortable with it, I don’t know. Either way, that’s something to think about if you’re dog is used to going places a lot.
My dog also had/has troubles sharing the spotlight with the new dog and she absolutely won’t share me. I can’t do anything with the new dog without her being right there and she isn’t afraid to push him out of the way if she wants the attention. We’re trying to work on it but it’s a slow process.
On the positive side, I feel better that my pup has a buddy now. If I HAVE to leave her behind, at least she isn’t alone and that makes me happy.
Every dog is different so you might just need to test it out to see how your pup does. Since he seems to enjoy other dogs at the park and doesn’t have a problem sharing attention, he might do really great with a new friend!
Post # 8
You stated your apartment was “smallish”…adding another dog may make your space cramped. Does your apartment complex allow 2 dogs?
What about doggie daycare for your dog when you are away?
Also, a second dog can be a great playmate. However, the barking issue can be “taught” to the new dog and then you have 2 barking dogs while you are away.
I’m not knocking 2 dogs AT ALL. I have 2 in my apartment and it’s great. I also have a yard with my place and neither of my dogs bark when I’m away. (I’ve videoed them to be sure since I am in an apartment)
Maybe foster a dog you are interested in and see how that goes. 🙂
Post # 9
We have two german shepards. they are littermates so they have never been an “only” dog. They are best friends and I cant imabine them not having their buddy. I worry for the day something happens and they no longer have each other. I’m sure yours will love having a buddy too. Sheparts are very social and generally like having a friend. Walking through petsmart with them is toug sometimes, but no one messes with the chick with two huge dogs.
Post # 10
I pretty much had the exact same experience with my dog. We got a second dog to avoid having to medicate him.
Post # 11
Thanks so much for the replies!
I would love a cat, too, but our current dog hasn’t done so well with them in the past. He likes to chase 🙁
We are allowed to have two dogs- our landlord’s exact words were actually “as long as it’s not snakes have whatever you want,” haha. While we don’t have the space to bring home a great dane, we decided that a small-medium sized dog wouldn’t make things too cramped. We do also have a small yard (I keep saying we live in an apartment out of habit because we used to, but technically what we have now is a duplex!)
The possibility of our dog teaching the other to bark was another reason we delayed. I’ve recorded our dog several times while we were our recently, though, and he doesn’t bark anymore. He spends most of his time laying on our bed or looking out the window waiting for us to come home, which makes me so sad!
Last night I took my dog out with me to drop something off at my mom’s, and when we got home our neighbor’s dog was out. They had so much fun playing and my dog actually looked sad when I called him to come inside. That makes me lean towards getting another dog, it just has to be the right one! We’ll definitely foster
Did getting a second dog help your first one? Right now I’m thinking it would either help or possibly just not make a difference- I don’t think it would make it worse, though.
Post # 12
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We got a second dog as a companion for the first And had the same concerns as you. It helps his anxiety when he had to be alone and he loves playing with her. He still is a momma’s boy and sometimes doesn’t like to share the bed at night, but most of the time they’re best buddies.
It is more difficult to take both dogs out together, but I think with some more training with the puppy it will get easier.
Post # 13
Adding a dog has never been a problem for me. If you don’t think it will make things worse, I think you should do it. We have three now, and they *still* mostly just wait by the door or lay around when we aren’t there. But they’re happy & enjoy playing & cuddling with each other.
Post # 14
It helped solve the problem completely. The trick is our first pet picked the second.
Post # 15
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I’d definitely give the trial a go! Or you might be able to find a rescue that needs foster homes. You foster a dog for a couple of weeks until it gets adopted. You give a dog a much needed temporary home, and when you find one you and your dog love, you adopt it. But in the meantime, you haven’t made a commitment but are donating a much-needed service to a rescue group…or so says the former foster mom of about 10 pets. (And the mom to two “foster failures.”)
My FI’s dog was the only pet for 11 years until I moved in with my two cats. She is less anxious now that she has buddies to hang out with. My Fiance and I ended up adopting a kitten in November, and now he and the dog are BFFs. He’s brought out the puppy in her.