Post # 1
Good morning all!
I was engaged many years ago and long story short; I ended the engagement and moved forward. Now many years later I’m with a wonderful man and we have recently started discussing rings. *squeal* I have found myself drawn to rings that are decidedly not like the one I received during my prior engagement. Over the years my style hasn’t changed all that much but something has made me stray away from anything that is too like the one from my previous relation.
For those of you who have gone through two engagements did you find yourself wanting a ring very different from the one you first received? Or is it just me?
Post # 2
I didn’t stray completely away from my style, which is a solitare, but I had a round brilliant on a Tiffany style knife edge platinum band. This time I went for a cushion modified brilliant on a white gold cathedral band.
I do still love round brilliant stones, but it did feel weird having something so similar. So I totally understand where you are coming from.
Post # 3
And to tell you the truth I am very happy that I was able to experience platinum to figure out that I do not like it. I’m not a fan of the patina look and prefer the shine of the white gold.
Post # 4
Well, I didnt pick my first ering but I didnt like the one I got. I never told him or complained, but it wasnt my style.
This time around I made sure my now FH knew prior that id like some input or the opportunity to show him styles I liked. I ended up doing a lot of research and finding exactly what i wanted. He was fine with that and ordered the one I picked.
Post # 5
My current ring is completely different from the one I had in my previous marriage. First ring was a princess cut 3-stone with some round channel set side stones. I thought it was pretty at the time. This time around I wanted something in a new style with no resemblance to the previous ring. I felt gross looking at anything similar since I wanted nothing that would have reminded me of the last ring and the shitty situation I was in. Didn’t even want princess cut diamonds in any way.
Post # 6
I can’t even look at princess cuts in white gold since that’s what I had the first time (in 2004!). Now I have a lovely antique stone in warm rose gold that I took forever to research. So same as
Post # 7
My first ering was a solitaire with six side stones (like a three stone ring, but with smaller side stones). I wanted something totally different for my second. My second is a split shank with 24 side stones – there’s little similarity between the two rings.
Post # 8
My first ring was a .3 ct round brilliant center with two small round brilliants on either side. Not a past present future, just much smaller accent stones on the side. It was purchased in a hurry from a chain jewelry store, and while I picked it out, I didn’t take time to really research what I would want.
I wanted something completely different this time! Round Brilliant have never been my favorite, as I always wanted something a bit more unique. My prior ring was from when my ex and I were quite young and the stone was given to him by his mother, from her first wedding set. My current ring is a 5 stone with an emerald cut center stone and has an art deco vibe to it. I much prefer the style of this one. It is timeless, but different from what I see all the time. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
I stayed with a round brilliant, but went from a 4 prong yellow gold cathedral solitaire to a 6 prong white gold, non cathedral solitaire. Not too much of a change, but to me all that mattered was that the guy was different.
Post # 10
I had a cushion cut both times, but my ring from my first engagement was a channel-set band with round prongs. My ring now is claw-pronged and French pave, with a hidden halo and pave on the prongs. The band is also considerably thinner. Much more sparkle!
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
I intentionally chose something different. My first ring was yellow gold, channel set round. My next engagement was a white gold twisted diamond band princess cut with a halo. A little much for me after a while.
This time I was sure I was going for a solitaire and in the end found a gorgeous sapphire and diamond 3 stone.
If you love something specific like a round Tiffany solitaire or whatnot, get what you love. Who cares about other engagements? If your style is a little more versatile change it up!
Post # 12
My first ring had a lot going on- princess cut center stone, halo, pave, split shank. I wasn’t a part of the shopping or choosing process
My ring “now” (still haven’t been given it yet-but sitting in his side drawer lol) is just a simple princess cut solitaire. A style that I’ve always quite adored and am happy I got some input on what he chose.
Post # 13
Congratulations, and yes. I definitely wanted something entirely different. But fh has specific taste so that is easy.
My first marriage I had a round in yellow with channel set sides. Then a heart in a vintage cathedral with filigree and sides. In white gold
My fh really likes dainty, feminine solitaires. After 2 moissy he decided in a very specific vintage look round solitaire in a 6 prong crown basket in white gold cathedral with a few small shared pave details on shank and basket.
Post # 14
I was engaged previously in my 20s, but we ended the engagement and never got married. This time around, I definitely wanted something different for my ring!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2019 - Baton Rouge, LA
My first engagement ring was an old mine cut idiamond n a floral illusion head setting; it was an heirloom from XH’s family, and was a surprise. I adored it and felt honored to wear it. This time around, I went with something very different. Fiance and I did the picking out together, and we chose a pear cut emerald set in rose gold with a halo and half pave band. Very different from my first ring, but still had a vintage feel.