Second Engagement Ring

posted 9 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I didn’t stray, so much as expanded. For my first marriage, I had a .33 carat round solitaire in yellow gold with an alternating sapphire and diamond wedding band. I am currently engaged (squee!) and have a 1.11 carat round solitaire in yellow gold with shared prong diamonds down the band. I am looking at getting an alternating sapphire and diamond (in marquise shape this time) wedding band.

You do what you like! There’s nothing saying your new set has to be completely different than your first set, you like what you like. At the same time, it is natural for your tastes to change as you get older and have lived more life. 

Congratulations on meeting someone wonderful to spend your life with!

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: City, State

Congratulations to you! Yes, I went for something completely different and, to be honest, I don’t like looking at rings that resemble my old engagement ring because it reminds me of the old ring. My old ring was a yellow gold 1 carat solitaire diamond. My current engagement ring is a rose gold aquamarine 2 carat cushion cut. Completely different vibe. And I like it that way. 🙂

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

My rings are crazy different from each other.  My first ring to my XH was very 90s: princess cut .33 carat, channel set diamonds on the side, white gold with yello gold Xs on either side of the diamond.  Very pretty and simple. 

 

My second ring to my late husband was white gold, with a .5 carat brilliant diamond with a split shank micropave setting, with 2 kite-set blue sapphires on either side. Absolutely gorgeous.  We designed it together and I LOVED it.  However, it HURT.  the kite set sapphires were super pointy.  When he died I had it stretched out into a necklace that I wear every day.

 

My third engagement ring was/is a 1 carat oval aquamarine ( I did NOT need another diamond, and aquamarine is my husband’s birthstone and blue is my favorite color) with a halo setting.  It’s very modern and wasn’t my taste, but he picked it out and I did grow to love it.  HOWEVER, on our recent trip to Mexico I fell in LOVE with a 2 carat brilliant cut Zultanite ring, micropave halo and super intricate filigree work on the side.  I loved it so much my husband insisted we buy it, and I asked if it could be my new engagement ring and he said of course! Zultanite changes color in the light, so it’s green under florescent lights, brown/gold/champagne in low/candlelight, and rose pink and purple in the sunlight.  I’ve never loved a ring more!

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Did you have it checked? I have been told that real Zultanite is so rare that jewelry stores in Mexico do not have it. But they are selling replicas. My source is very reliable and works with the mine / distributor. She was recently given the task to spot check jewelry stores in Mexico to look for fakes. beesinging :  

Post # 20
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Busy bee

I was in Mexico this past week and was unable to find Zultanite in any of the stores I checked. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

I was engaged twice and happily married to second one!  I have to admit that my style in engagement rings did not change…I have always loved the solitaire and that’s what I got both times…classic round diamond with a platinum band.  Also, I want to add that both men had the same taste in rings too.  LOL.  Neither one was into halos or anything beyond the classic solitaire.  With that said, a lot of women I know who were engaged more than once chose completely different rings the second time around and were very happy with their decision.  It’s whatever you want and would make you happy!  Happy ring shopping!

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I wanted a heart shape diamond for my first engagement ring but the jeweler talked is out of it. He bought a round diamond. I only had it for a year.

My second was a round with channel set diamonds on the sides. I had the diamond reset last year to this right hand ring.

My third engagement ring is this beauty. 

 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Mine was pretty different. I realized I hated platinum, it scratched sooooo easily. I also went with a round second time around. The first princess faced up to small. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I hate platinum as well mjay :  

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

penny1403 :  Eh, I think it is likely just a color-changing diaspore, but that doesn’t stop my love for it 🙂  But when I say diaspore to people, they don’t know what I’m talking about!  Some people (but not TOO many more) have heard of Zultanite.  I don’t really care if it’s trademarked or not, I just love the ring.  It’s super sparkly and has amazing color change properties, so that’s what made me fall in love with it.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I love sapphire and diamond rings. That hasn’t changed so I gravitated to the same kinds of rings. Fiancé wanted something different so deviated.

Post # 27
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977 posts
Busy bee

beesinging :  It is my understanding that only one mine exists which is under the trademark Zultanite.

Would you post a picture? I wore a 10.2 carat Zultanite ring last week. It was beautiful and about $60k. 

Post # 28
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Newbee

I definitely changed my e ring style up a lot. My first ring was pretty busy; round center stone, pretty large halo, channel set band in white gold. Looking back it felt really clunky to me and I wanted more bling and size because I was really young (21) and looked every bit a teenager.

My e ring this time is an oval solitaire with a micropave band in rose gold. I still like bling but it feels more sleek this time and more effortless. I love my right now and am so happy this is my forever ring!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Austin, TX

My first marriage was to my highschool sweetheart and the engagment ring was a white gold princess cut solitaire that was a hand me down that was given to us from a family members previous failed marriage. Needless to say it was probably cursed from that start. 

As my fiance and I started talking about marriage and rings I knew I wanted something completely different and wanted it to feel special and different form the past. I am eterenally grateful he blessed me this past weekend with a beautiful round brilliant set in a rose gold milgrain bezel. It is so breath taking I cant stop staring down at my hand. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

Nope, I had fallen in love with a kite setting early one when I was looking at rights for my first engagement. When he proposed with the ring I had selected, he was going to get the center stone from another location, and he had a different stone set instead. My heart just dropped. He claimed that he wanted some input and a touch of him as well. The ring was beautiful, but just not the same. 

Through the years, I still gravated to that kite look, and did try loving others, but it wasn’t the same. When my Darling Husband and I started to look at rings, we went with the kite, it just feels so darned right.

Maybe had I received the kite in the first ring, I would have picked something different the second time around. 

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