Post # 1
So I’m standing in the fabric department of Joann Fabrics today, bag in hand that holds a sample of the bamboo disposable plates we thought we would use for the reception. Its supposed to be a good day – I’m going to go home and create a sample tablescape to see it all come together. And then – out of nowhere – I’m suddenly two seconds away from bursting into tears. Like hot, sobbing, full on ugly cry tears.
I don’t know why this is happening – I’ve been so happy that we’ve continued to make decisions based on us. I’ve been thrilled that I started living with a new mantra lately – “I will not remember how my wedding looked, but I will remember how it felt.” That has been tremendous in helping me make the right decisions. The man I love is wonderful, he’s been supportive and proud of all the work I’ve put into our day. EVERYTHING SHOULD BE FINE.
But suddenly, with only 9 weeks left, I was seconds away from a major meltdown in the fabric store and now I’m having a panic attack and rethinking everything. Our budget. Our flowers. My dress, What the heck to do with my hair. To veil or not to veil. My jewelry. My menu. My invites and programs and escort cards and place settings and the music and everything. The only thing I’m sure of right now is that I’m marrying the man that I love. And then that sends me into a bucket of tears again.
Am I alone in this – or does everybody have their Freak Out Day/Week/Month. Please tell me its only a day or two…
Post # 3
BREATHE! Take some deep breaths and remind yourself that it will all be okay. You said it right that you should remember how you felt, not what everything looked like. Of course we all get crazy detailed oriented with our weddings and want it to be perfect but we have to remember that something will go wrong and on the day, it really won’t matter. Why? Because you are marrying your partner, your love, your best friend and will be building your life with this person. You will get through this, just remember to breathe.
Post # 4
Me too…..I have all of a sudden decided I might like to add teal to my colors. I wish I would have looked at more dresses, because I surely could have done better. I just changed the entire flower order, and now I think I want to.do it again. I’ve changed the grooms tux, and now I think maybe I should change all the tuxes. I’m not sure I’ve picked the right music, I may want to change that up. And so on……….the worst of it all is the dress regret.
Post # 5
I can’t imagine you are possibly alone in all of this. I’m so far out and I am constantly changing my mind/plans. The important thing is that you are sure about what matters, and that is who you are marrying.
I’m also posting to say that I hadn’t heard of bamboo plates before this and now I’m seriously considering them! Thanks for the idea!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Breathe. And yes, unfortunately these “aack!” moments happen.
Take a couple of days off from everything wedding- don’t even say the word, and let yourself recoup (stay out of the hive, too!). Yoga was a God-send for me during planning.
You’ve got your head on straight- this sentence made me smile- “The only thing I’m sure of right now is that I’m marrying the man that I love.”- so I know you’re going to be okay! 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks guys. I did the one thing I HAD to do this week and now I’m going on wedding planning hiatus. I think I will give myself three days but I’m just going to let it happen naturally until I get my mojo back. The future Mr. is being so very supportive and accepting of my emotional rollercoaster. I love that man, and I cannot wait to be his wife 🙂 For the next few days, I’m just going to enjoy being the love of his life.