- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
OK, so here’s the scoop. When I started the wedding planning process last fall, I decided I wanted real-touch silk flowers. 1) As I’ve gotten older, my ultra-practical side has developed to the point that I didn’t want to spend money on a beautiful bouquet only to throw it away, and 2) I hoped my bouquet would be so lovely that I’d get to keep it forever as a keepsake, which is awfully sentimental, I know (and I’m not the sentimental type, but what can I say–I get sentimental about anything related to my fiancé).
I found a website with really beautiful real-touch bouquets, and, noticing that the owner books up WAY in advance, I hurried and placed my order and paid for my bouquet and my daughter’s jr bridesmaid bouquet. I had a REALLY hard time settling on an inspiration pic, and actually paid a change fee because I changed my mind about what to use as my primary inspiration picture after my initial consultation with the owner. No big deal; I didn’t mind. I thought Fiance and I were not going to have any other flowers, so I didn’t give it much thought. I paid a total of $346.60 for two bouquets; $50 of that was for the changes to the bouquets.
Fast-forward to now: Fiance and I are now planning to have two large ceremony arrangements and some smaller centerpieces at the reception, and he wants fresh flowers. I’m OK with that; I DO love fresh flowers too. But as I’ve been looking around at inspiration for the ceremony flowers, I’m starting to second-guess not just my decision to have a silk bouquet, but the style of the bouquet I’ve chosen as well! L For starters, for whatever dumb reason, I didn’t request peonies in my bouquet, and they are my most favorite flower. I wonder about the color choices I’ve made, too. I am also thinking that my daughter’s bouquet will not work with the dress we got for her; that’s what I get for ordering her flowers 6 months before deciding on her dress!
I have settled on a florist where we’re getting married to do the ceremony and reception flowers, as well as fresh boutonnieres for my Fiance and son. I haven’t gotten a price yet for all of that. I figured I’d also ask them to make a fresh bouquet for my daughter too. But I don’t know what to do about my bouquet!
Here are my options, as I see it:
1) Stick with the silk bouquet for both myself and my daughter, and don’t pursue any changes to those designs with the silk florist…I’ve paid for them, after all. Chances are good that they’ll be really nice, even if they don’t quite “go” with the flowers we are planning to have for the ceremony and reception (a minor detail, since this is a pretty non-traditional wedding in the sense that I have no sort of color scheme at all).
2) Ask for changes to the design with the silk florist, knowing that I’ll have to pay another fee. The problem is that I don’t know if a small change—like adding peonies—is enough, or if I should start from scratch? It seems unlikely that I’ll be able to ask for an entirely new design this late in the game.
3) Ask the fresh florist to quote me for back-up bouquets. I’ll get approval pics from the silk florist on May 6, so if it looks like a disaster, I can just go with fresh.
4) Start all over—with fresh all the way. No keepsakes there, but I get a chance to decide on new bouquets and make sure everything is more coordinated.
Ack!! Seriously, this flower business is harder than the dress business. It seems like such a minor detail for the simple wedding that we’re having…I don’t want to turn this into “a big thing,” but for whatever reason, I’m kind of fixated on it. If I’m shelling out for flowers, real or not, I want them to be pretty and something I’m happy to hold and/or keep forever, you know?
I’m sorry this is SO long, but I feel like an idiot talking to other people about it! I’m really looking for advice/opinions/suggestions…have a look at my pics and tell me what you think!
First, my dress:
Here is the inspiration for my silk bouquet. I wanted a cascade bouquet with pretty greenery and lily of the valley and cream roses, but now I’m wondering why on earth I didn’t ask for peonies, because they are my favorite flower! I waffled on the blue flowers…I couldn’t decide if I liked them or not, but ultimately, I thought it was a nice touch of color. I asked the silk florist to replicate this as exactly as she could:
Here is the bouquet I just found that I love as much as my inspiration bouquet, if not MORE…gorgeous!!! It has the greenery I wanted, the size is PERFECT, and I heart the yellow flowers. Is this a better choice?? Should I try to get my silk bouquet to look like this? Or should I ask the fresh florist to make this for me?
Here is the inspiration for my daughter’s bouquet. I asked for these colors, along with some pale green hydrangea and lily of the valley.
Here is her dress, and it’s in this exact color, too. I just don’t think that the bouquet I’ve ordered will look right with it, but I have NO idea what to do instead.
And FWIW, Fiance suggested we give the fresh florist the picture of my bouquet inspiration to use as inspiration for the ceremony arrangements…just larger, of course, and in the appropriate shape, and adding orchids as well (his fave flower). Here’s what he’d like for the reception centerpieces (MUCH smaller, not in bouquet form, of course, and without the bouquet bling, and with orange orchids):