(Closed) Second Guessing My Ring Choice?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
9733 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@raychul13:  I will be honest and say that any ring I see on a woman’s left hand ring finger without a second (wedding) band says “engagement ring” to me. And I agree, that a sizeable ring with a white center stone partically says “engagement ring.” 

Post # 4
1228 posts
Bumble bee

If you love the ring, get the ring! Technically, a promise ring is a promise to get engaged anyway. So why not pick your engagement ring now, and have him take it away for a few weeks later on so he can suprise you with a proposal?

Post # 6
151 posts
Blushing bee

I personally wouldnt go for a full on engagement esque ring like that for a promise ring. Then what excitement is left for an engagement ring? I bet you want your e ring to feel like an upgrade. 

Post # 7
2570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think the ring will look too big, however it is very engagement-y and may confuse people. If you don’t mind that then go for it! It looks like a nice ring!

I PERSONALLY would go for a gemstone or something for a promise ring. Maybe like a sapphire or an aquamarine. Then you can switch it over to your right hand and even wear it as your “something blue” on your wedding day! Just a suggestion. Smile

Post # 8
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would suggest a different center stone, maybe a blue topaz or black diamond, that way it doesn’t look SO much like an engagement ring? =)

Post # 10
9733 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@raychul13:  I told him that if he got that, I wouldn’t need an upgrade to an engagement ring.” This is understandable, but if I were you I would wait and save the money (and the moissy) for the e-ring. I think you will regret not getting the “whole package” for your proposal if you get this ring as your promise ring.  

Post # 11
6330 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@raychul13:  Personally, it would drive me up the wall to have people keep asking me if I was engaged and to keep having to tell them no. I wouldnt want to put up with that. I would choose a colored stone orplain metal ring or EVEN a clear stone if you want to … but I would put it on my RIGHT hand ring finger!

Post # 12
2757 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

My cousin wears a three stone diamond ring on her left ring finger as a “promise ring” for her Boyfriend or Best Friend. People are always asking her is shes engaged, it drives her nuts.


 I also agree with the PP who suggested saving the clear larger stone for the actual proposal. If you want something larger, then I think a beautiful gemstone would be great. Morganite, topaz, sapphire and aquamarine are some good options. I also agree with @wrkbrk about wearing it on your right hand, to avoid people constantly asking if you are engaged.


Gemstones can of course be engagement rings too, but if you’re planning a diamond/moissy ering then a colored stone promise ring would be great!


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Post # 13
1031 posts
Bumble bee

It would break my heart when people would ask me if I was engaged and I would have to explain no I’m not, it’s a promise ring, there are enough people who have oppinions about promise rings as it is, that I wouldn’t want to make i an invitation for discussion.

Also I know that you said you would be fine with just using that ring as an engagement ring as well, but it is kind of taking away from the whole fun and tradition of getting engaged in the first place.

I woudl personally get a different ring, different stone. It’s a beautiful idea, and I love that your SO is letting you pick it out, but the ring you want seems to be jumping the gun a little. ALthough, at the end of the day do what makes you happy.

This is comparable to going into a wedding dress store and trying on dresses without an engagement, sure it will happen someday, but it will not be as special when it’s official.

Post # 14
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I dont think it’s too big.. I would probably wear it on my right hand though.

ETA: you may want to look into a forver brilliant stone, as shapes have a higher chance of being warm and showing color. 

There is also the option of going for a colored gem, and waiting to get that ring that you absolutely 100% love for when you’re ready to be engaged, then that can be a “forever” ring.

Post # 15
3751 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Like others have said, it would drive me nuts to have to explain that my ring isn’t an engagement ring. I’m anti-promise ring anyway, but that’s a different story. If you’re dead set on wearing that ring then maybe wear it on your right hand and switch it to the left when he proposes?

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