(Closed) Second Guessing My Ring Setting.

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

@halolover:  Eh. I don’t wanna thread jack so here is the thread I posted about it awhile back…

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/snarky-remarks-about-your-ring

You would be shocked how many girls get that! I just let it roll off my back now..But really, IMO some people are just rude or they are afraid to give a compliment. Your ring really is very pretty as it is.

It’s just funny, I actually just posted a thread a few hours ago about ADDING a halo to mine:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/halo-or-not-to-halothat-is-the-question

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s gorgeous! And you love it, so don’t fret!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not a big halo fan, but I think your ring is pretty and if you love it than that’s all that matters.  My e-ring and w-bands don’t get many compliments on the Bee or from anyone else, but I LOVE my rings and think they are beautiful.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’ve noticed a lot with second marriages people are already used to seeing you with a ring before and its not really a new thing… I’m not sure if I made any sense… 

anyways I think your ring is beautiful and you should be proud of it and not care what anyone thinks. If you love it its all that matters. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not generally a fan of halos, but your ring is very pretty!!! It’s all about what YOU like though! Do you LOVE your ring? That other setting you put a picture of is STUNNING IMO – but then, I don’t have to wear it for LIFE! 😉

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I love your ring. And to be honest, I don’t get a lot of compliments on my ring either which kinda bums me out. I thought I would be getting so many compliments cuz I compliment people all the time on their rings, and I always notice peoples rings but I guess most people arent like that. I was thinking about changing my setting too, but decided against it. I wouldnt change the setting, I think its perfect!

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

the centre diamond does get lost a little due to the size of the diamonds of the halo. But like others said  its not that common to get random compliments about your ring. You need to love it and determine if the confusion is due to your personal feelings about the ring or others lack of compliments. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I also have a cushion halo with a round stone. The halo stones are much smaller than yours if that is what you are looking for, check out Martin Flyer!

At the end of the day YOU and only you have to love it – whether “it” is your current setting, a different halo or a completley different setting.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Try not to be too bothered about what people say or don’t say about your ring in person. 🙂  Most people don’t pay any attention to my rings (the engagement ring or the wedding band) either and I’m not exactly the kind of girl to wave them under anybody’s nose. lol  However, they’re beautiful rings and I get compliments when people do happen to notice them.  So will you. 🙂  And if people don’t compliment it, it doesn’t mean your ring is any less beautiful, I think it just means that people are so used to seeing so many gorgeous engagement rings that they just don’t think anything of it anymore when they see one more, if you know what I mean.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really like your halo setting!

About 6 months ago I had a diamond reset from a 3 stone setting to a halo setting. (sorry I don’t have any pictures of it).  Because of budget issues, I had to settle on the setting I got, which basically is a halo with a plain band.

I kept going back to the store over and over to try the sample on.  DH kept asking if I was sure that I liked it, and I did.  Then I got it, and I didn’t like it.  The center diamond is not very well cut and the diamonds in the halo were very sparkly so I hated the difference.  I knew immediately after getting it I didn’t like it and unfortunately the jeweler wouldn’t take it back (oh why I didn’t find out the return policy is beyond me!)

Now I’m stuck with this ring.  I cannot put it back in the 3 stone ring because I sold the setting.  I never get compliments on this ring, and in fact, I was in a department store the other day and saw a $20 sterling silver/cubic zirconia ring that looked identical to mine!  Talk about a bummer!

I tried on a setting almost identical to the ones from Zales that you posted.  I personally like your halo setting a lot more than the Zales one.

You’re the one that has to be happy with it bottom line.  I personally wouldn’t change it again.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think the problem with the ring is there is such a stark contrast: the center stone is soft and feminine and the band is very rigid. 

While I do think that the proposed ring is prettier, I also feel like it’s a bit hurtful to your husband to change the ring that he picked out for you. Perhaps you can modify his setting somewhat as opposed to completely give it up? 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

at first I was so excited about my ring and he was so great about it. But I also want to continue loving it and the fact that no one ever notices it…(to me it is pretty noticeable) makes me feel it is just not the classic look I was going for.

Why are you letting your happiness with your ring depend on other people complementing it? It sounds like you were really happy with it and maybe had an unrealistic expectation of how others would react to it.  No one is ever going to love and admire your ring as much as you do. I think it is beautiful ring.

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with some of the other bees. You should see if you can get your center stone set higher.  It does seem a bit lost.

If you don’t love your ring, ask your Fiance if it is possible to exchange it…as graciously and lovingly as possible. This tends to be a point of tension if both parties do not agree.

I love both styles–extravagant and simple.  But for everyday, I prefer simply classy and elegant.  I have a solitaire, but still love halos and side stones. In fact, my hubby is letting me design my own RHR for my anniversary present (I feel SO loved!).

Be honest. Be considerate in your approach. He loves you and wants to make you happy.

Your ring is beautiful. Good luck! =)

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