(Closed) Second guessing myself………help……

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you think the ring is like the dress...when you know you know???
    Yes : (27 votes)
    51 %
    No : (7 votes)
    13 %
    Both, you can know but you can grow to love something you really dont like..... : (19 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 4
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    1152 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m loving the new ring and it sounds like you are too! I think that deep in your gut, you know which one you love. ๐Ÿ™‚ It also sounds like it fits your personality more, so you won’t get tired of it. I see marquise rings as really glamorous, fashionista girls, not jeans-and-t-shirt girls (like you and I!).

    Post # 5
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    1152 posts
    Bumble bee

    P.S. I can’t answer your ring vs. dress question… I told Fiance to pick out my ring because I knew that that was the only way I wouldn’t second-guess it. So I didn’t pick my own ring.

    Post # 6
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    4014 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Its ok to change your mind! Especially when you actually go and start trying on rings! I must be biased lol. I originally wanted a delicate triple halo with 2 blue sapphires, and ended up with a round, plain solitaire almost identical to the setting you posted above!

    Almost had

     

    What I ended up loving more! (I am having a Montana Sapphire wedding band instead)

    Post # 7
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    you’ve never tried anything on before right? you’re not “changing your mind” you’re just discovering what works for you in real life! I’d suggest holding off on the purchase or order, and go shopping together one more time.  If the same style still calls out to you, then go for it! Be secure in what your gut tells you.  Jewellery serves no practical purpose, its totally subjective and all about what looks beautiful and feels right to you! You shouldn’t expect a rational decision, this is an EMOTIONAL decision!

    Post # 9
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    733 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, that sapphire is captivating.

    I love it

    Post # 11
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    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think both are pretty and I can see why you would drool over the sapphire one… but it does sound like you should follow your heart and that sounds like the princess with the gold band. Much more classic.

    Post # 12
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    56 posts
    Worker bee

    I think that once you put a ring on, and its your ring, you know. Lately SO and I have taked about getting engeged, and I thought I wanted a 2.5(or more)ct halo huge radiant diamond ring, and when we went shopping around, he slipped a .40ct round brilliant plain soliatire in white gold onto my finger, and I nearly cried. It was the prettiest thing Id ever seen and I LOVED IT. More than the 2ct halo I tried on next. I think you know, and I think that you can feel it. I understand not wanting to second guess, Its a huge purchase and its something you want to love forever.

    However, that doesnt always work out. After 60+ years of marriage, my grandma swapped her .25ct yellow gold princess cut ring for a 2.5ct round halo. Lol. Its funny how things work out. She kept her old ring, she put it away to give to one of her grand daughters and now wears her new “bling’ ๐Ÿ˜‰

    My opinion? Get the ring that makes you feel the way your Fiance makes you feel, completely amazing, totally undeniably in love. Like youd never want another. In a few years your tastes may change like my grandmas, and thats what upgrading is for! If youre not feeling your ring anymore in 15 years, have your center stone reset into a setting that is more your taste at the time. It sounds like you fell in love with that princess cut ring, dont over think it ๐Ÿ™‚ You will know whats best imo!(my grandmas new ring lol)  

    Post # 14
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    56 posts
    Worker bee

    @kansas_nurse:  Yeah I totally get that. I think you just know. Ive seen bees getting the run through when they say ‘oh i dont like the ring Fiance gave me’ or ‘oh i want something different now’ and sometimes that happens, but I honestly dont think that happens when you have the ring. Its like I said earlier, when you find the right ring, you know. Its like finding the right guy. I think a lot of bees fall victim to picking a ring they think is glamourousor trendy, or something they saw on someone else that they envied, but once they got it, they realized it wasnt the ring. But I think when you feel such an emotional conection to a ring, I dont forsee a “buyers remorse” happening. 

    Do I see rings that I love on here that I totally envy and wish were my engagement ring? OMG YES! lol. However, at the end of the day, do they give me that same “this is the ring” feeling I felt in the store when i saw that .50 white gold solitaire? Hell no. Theres always going to be things youre going to like and envy, but IMO theres only one “it ring. But thats just me!

    Either choice you make it gorgeous! Did you consider getting an alternating diamond/sapphire eternity band as the first in a right hand stack ring set? Then you get the best of both worlds, and when youre feeling adventurous, switch your plain eternity band from your set with the sapphire right hand ring!

    Oh and my grandma, omg I know haha. Shes hilarious Im so proud of her for indulging on her new ring lol. EDIT: Also, over time I can see peoples taste changing as their lifestyles do, and I understand upgrading, but when I get engaged and if I were to upgrade 60 years down the line, Id never be able to alter/trade in the ring my SO gave me! It would still be the ring to me ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 15
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Darling Husband picked my ring out all by himself. I stumbled upon a photo of it on accident (I swear) and I HATED IT. He didn’t propose for months and monnths. And for months and months I HATED IT. Then it grew on me, and by the time Darling Husband FINALLY proposed I had falledn in love with my ring :). 

    Post # 16
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    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    honestly, its not about the ring. I think you should see past the setting and stone and see that the man you love spent the money and bought a ring, arranged a perfect proposal, and chose you for the rest of your life. If you think of that when you see your ring, I dont see how you couldnt love it. If my SO picked a simple silver band for me, I would love it becuase he thought it was perfect for me. stop thinking about the ring and think about why he is giving the ring to you and I am sure you will change your mind about the ring!

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