Post # 1
How dangerous is it to be around a smokers house during pregnancy? My Mom lives in an apartment and is a regular smoker. She never smokes when I am there, however, the smoke lingers in the house and I reek of smoke when I leave and have a film in my mouth. I have to change my clothes and shower as soon as I get home. I visit her about once a week.
As much as it makes me uncomfortable, this is the only option as she is unable to leave her house due to a disability. So having her visit me isn’t an option. If I stopped going I wouldn’t ever see her.
Do you think once a week in a smokers house is ok?
Post # 2
Studies show that smoke lingers for up to 20 minutes just outside and is very harmful. Because you are pregnant, you fall into a category of people most at risk (pregnant women and children). Why not be safe and meet her outside her house?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
greaselightning: For me the answer is no. Is there a way for you to spend time with her on the patio or other outside area? I realize it’s a tough situation, but personally, I wouldn’t do anything to put my baby at risk, so I’d go for an alternative to being inside her home.
Post # 4
Personally, I wouldn’t chance it. If it’s so bad that you feel it in your body when you leave, I think you know that it isn’t a place to be when pregnant. Also, this is a good time to start thinking about your plan for after baby comes. Are you really going to bring a newborn with healthy lungs into her apartment filled with smoke and chemicals?
Post # 5
That’s a no for me, pregnant or not. My mom told my grandmother she would not be visiting her any longer once she got pregnant and wouldn’t allow her around the baby because of her smoking. She quit cold turkey that day after 30 something years of smoking. I can’t imagine as a mother putting my child or grandchild at risk. I know it’s not easy to quit, but i would ask her to consider it.
Post # 7
i think it was my 14 or 15 week update that said the lungs were beginning to develop. the recommendation was to stay away from smoke and inhaling chemicals and polutants
for me, it took us a long time and a lot of money to become successful, i would not do anything to put the baby at risk.
we have an issue with DH’s grandfather smoking. when he comes to our house, his clothes reek of smoke. it makes me sick on a normal basis, so pregnancy certainly doesn’t help. especially when he goes outside to take a smoke break every 10 minutes and then comes back in the house.
i told Darling Husband, this is going to be a problem when the baby comes. he is going to have to wear clothes that have never been in his house if he wanted to come near the baby.
Post # 8
I was just doing some reading about this and they actually call this Third Hand Smoke, toxins that linger in carpets and furniture and clothing.
thanks everyone, it’s a really tough situation. My Mom doesn’t even notice it because she lives in it, but for me it’s so noticeable.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
greaselightning: Correct third hand smoking is just as bad. I would stay away from her house. Can you take her outside, a park, restaurant, etc? It’s also good for her to get out.