(Closed) Second Marriage Wedding Events

posted 7 years ago in Encore
  • poll: 2nd Marriage - What wedding events should the bride request
    Jack and Jill : (7 votes)
    13 %
    1 or 2 Bridal Showers : (7 votes)
    13 %
    Bachelorette : (19 votes)
    35 %
    Neither - These events are for 1st Marriage Only : (18 votes)
    33 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 4
    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    It wouldn’t bother me if I was invited to these events for the 2nd time and I would gladly go. People who are offended by it just won’t attend.

    Post # 5
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you’re happy and want to celebrate with friends and family, go for it! I’d happily attend any of those events for a dear friend or relative.

    Post # 8
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If someone offers to throw you a shower, I think it’s fine.  I think it’s a bit questionable to request a shower whether it’s your first or second marriage.

    As for a bachelorette, I think that it’s up to you and your friends what you’re comfortable with.  If you’re more the spa day crowd great and if you’re the wild penis themed party goods with strippers and drinking that’s fine too.  I think that the comfort level you you and your bridal party should help dictate the bachelorette.

    Post # 9
    1576 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I didn’t know a bride was supposed to request showers and the like. Good to know! I personally would like a bachelorette party. I am 54 and I certainly do not need bridal showers. And I have no idea what a Jack and Jill is!


    Post # 10
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    What events do you want?

    Post # 11
    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think if someone wants to offer to throw a shower, and it seems like people would be ok with it, then its fine.  But I think it would look gift grabby if you were requesting one.  As for the bachelorette, I think that’s fine, but if its the same attendants, at least offer to pay your own way out and just treat it as a girls night instead of assuming its on their dime again.

    Post # 12
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think a bachelorette party is completely appropriate. Also I have a lot of friends who married for a second time in their 40’s and all had jack and jill parties.  I know because most asked to use our lake house for it 🙂  It was a lot of laid back wild and wacky fun. You can do whatever you want. This is your guys special time. You will always encounter some naysayers in life but honestly those peopl you can never please so don’t worry about them. 🙂

    Post # 14
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think whatever is comfortable on all ends, works! This is my second wedding and I had a Bridal Shower Tea with a very small group and we are having a Jack and Jill at a lakeside resort for anyone interested in coming, at no obligation! So far everyone has been on board, and the ideas were given to the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man when they asked for ideas on their own. 

    I think some sort of celebration before hand is appropriate no matter what age or number of marriages! It’s a time of celebration with friends and family regardless of circumstance. It’s a fun, exciting time in your life! 


    ETA: I see it’s for a friend so this is directed at her, instead of OP! 🙂

    Post # 15
    1 posts
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @winerygirl: True statement I would gladly come just to support my friend or family member. I say go and ENJOY!!!!!

    Post # 16
    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m a second marriage in my 30’s. 

    I voted “other” because while I would never ask for anything, I don’t think I should be prohibited from having parties because I’m a second-time bride. 

    That being said, my mom and sister [hurtfully] made clear that they will NOT be throwing me any parties because “they’ve already done that” and “no one will want to come again.” 

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