Second miscarriage in 8 months

posted 1 month ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

zstbee84 :  I’m so sorry, miscarriages suck. Unfortunately they aren’t rare – something like 30% of women will have one (myself included). I would take the time you need to grieve and regroup and try again. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
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zstbee84 :  I am so, so sorry this is happening to you (again) but as PP said, it sadly isn’t that rare. I read 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage in the first 12 weeks, and whilst that doesn’t make it any less painful, hopefully, it will help you to realise that it isn’t rare and I am sure there is nothing wrong with you, other than just having terrible luck. I am so sorry. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry Bee. I’m on my third myself. Unfortunately it is not that rare as other posters have said, people just tend not to talk about it. I would keep trying and push for a blood panel to test for clotting disorders etc before going to IVF.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Also if you have a history of recurring miscarriages they might be able to do some tests and see if there is anything they can do to help the next pregnancy. I know friends/family that have been low on progesterone so they are prescribed supplements. Another cousin had an undiagnosed blood clotting issue and once she was on medication for that was able to have two healthy babies (after 5 miscarriages). 

Post # 6
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Worker bee

I’m so sorry bee – your feelings are completely normal. I recommend joining the pregnancy loss group on Babycenter – lots of women there who have experienced more than one loss and will be able to relate to you.

If it helps, I have a friend in her mid 30s who had two back to back losses similar to yours…HCG was doubling fine but progesterone remained borderline. She also never had many symptoms with either of those pregnancies. Both losses happened around the 8 week mark. Anyway, she and her husband went to an RE for recurrent loss testing and were debating what to do next when a month or two after the second loss, she got pregnant again naturally, and that one stuck and is now a healthy 10 month old.

You’ll hear a lot of stories like that even among women who have had 2, 3 or more miscarriages. Odds are still very much in your favor of being able to carry a healthy pregnancy to term, as hopeless as it feels right now. Sending you virtual hugs right now bee. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
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Can you ask your doctor to do a work up on potential underlying causes? As PP’s have pointed out there may be underlying causes that are treatable to help you hold onto the pregnancy.

Are you able to get the miscarriage tissue tested? With my miscarriage they did testing to check for chromosomal issues to determine if my body miscarried because the DNA wasn’t viable or whether there were factors within my body driving the loss. 

Big hugs to you Bee! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Talk with your doctor about what’s possible and how they would need it collected. I opted for a D&C once we knew my pregnancy was failing so they took the tissue from the procedure. I am not sure how it would work whe miscarrying naturally.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

TravelingBride31 :  That’s a good point. OP did your doctor discuss this with you at all? Since its your second loss I’d definitely want to have the tissue tested if possible. If you miscarry at home you can collect a sample (I’m sorry I know how horrible this sounds). If you end up needing a d&c or something they could retain a sample and run tests.

How do you feel about your current provider in general? I think it’s weird he/she threw out IVF so quickly. I also think it’s odd they didn’t talk to you about having tests done on the tissue. Given your age and the fact this is yoru 2nd loss I’d for sure be looking into seeing an RE…I think they’ll be more helpful than an OBGYN.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

zstbee84 :  I’m so sorry. Since this is your second loss in a row, I would call you RE and ask if you can schedule a D&C. I agree with TravelingBride, testing the tissue is a good next step along with RPL testing. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

zstbee84 :  Oh okay, I didn’t realize you had one for your last MC. That does make a difference for sure. My losses were too early for tissue collection, but I do know some people who have collected the tissue at home and brought it in for testing. It’s possible, but may be an even more traumatic experience for you.

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