(Closed) second set of in-laws

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That’s EXACTLY how my boyfriends parent’s are, and it TERRIFIES me that they are so very polite. I would have no idea if they were mad at me (which they have no reason to be, but if they did one day… I wouldn’t know). I’d love to be closer to them, but I don’t really have anything to talk about with them… good luck! I know how hard it is!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think you’re very lucky to have great ex-in-laws and your fiance is okay with it.  My husband would rather my cut all the ties even though they live far away and they’re great.  Oh well

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your post reminds me of every time I broke-up with a boyfriend – I was usually more sad about “breaking up” with the family as opposed to the boy itself!

I say be happy with what you have – it could be way way worse and I am sure that you will get closer over the years!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

You can’t pick your family… as they say!  My late husbands family are GREAT and we continue to have a great relationship 5 1/2 years after my husbands untimely death. (They were  invited to my future wedding) My FI’s family… not so much.  He has a non-existant relationship with most of his family, his mom, was not invited to the wedding, same goes for one sister… they were NASTY to him during his divorce, never concerned with his happiness.  Be grateful the in-laws are polite, I bet they’ll warm up in time…if not, understand that family dynamics are different for all families. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I think you’re right to ahve the “thank my lucky stars” attitude.  You have an amicable relationship with your ex and family.  That is priceless.  Iwouldn’t hold hope to get that closeness with the new in-laws.  (Since you say they aren’t that close to each other.)  Different strokes for different folks. 

Post # 8
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Yeah, you won’t hit the jackpot every time! Maybe you can think about getting to know the new in-laws individually rather than as a group. You won’t have that same group cameraderie atmosphere, but you can still form meaningful bonds. They all sound like they are pretty great though; you are lucky!

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