(Closed) second thoughts..

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Newbee

You have the wedding programs but you aren’t engaged yet? If that’s the case, I could see why he’d not feel too well… I may be misunderstanding lol

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I understand you are excited about getting married, but if its pre-engagment, then you should probably dial down your planning alot. It could be scaring your boyfriend away.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

What wedding programs are you referring to? Also, his not feeling good may not have anything to do with that. Did you guys have dinner before cake? If so, maybe something didn’t agree with him. Or maybe he’s coming down w/ a cold? We need more details hun  🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the PPs. And if you are engaged and planning to be married in a year from now, I feel like that is still really early to have the wedding programs all printed out…

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If you’ve discussed marriage and are just waiting on a ring and you both are on the same page, then I think it’s okay to be talking wedding planning.  Maybe he was just sick?

But if you haven’t really gotten into the meat of wedding planning (where he’s giving you ideas for colors or telling you which venue he likes) then I don’t think you should be surprising him with programs.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@countrygirl12:  I would wait to plan the details (like wedding programs) until after you have planned the big stuff (venue, major vendors like photographer, DJ, officiant, florist). I would wait to plan the big stuff until after the ring or you two decide you are officially engaged. You’re probably just overwhelming him with too much too fast.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d wait on programs till much later, like a month before you marry. Just because you haven’t finalized anything yet, like your bridal party, your ceremony, your readings. When you announce your engagement, you might feel surprised that some of this stuff changes from how you imagine it once you start involving family and real life budgets. There’s nothing wrong with planning (imagining what sort of wedding you’d like, where you’d like to have it, finding out how much things cost in your area etc.) But I’d hold off on details that change or putting down any serious money or deposits till you’ve announced your engagement and had a little time to sit with the idea. He probably needs a little time to adjust to the idea of being engaged before he’s ready to get into details of planning. Some guys aren’t into details at all- but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, just that he needs time.

 

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