Post # 1
Well, this is the ONLY thing I’m having second thoughts about. Which is good–I am 100% confident in all of my other choices!
Before I went dress shopping, I did not want a veil. I don’t like the tradition it stands for, and I don’t like the poof. I also don’t like how it covers up the back of your dress. No offense to ladies with veils–this is just my personal opinion on them.
When I started dress shopping, the consultants just kept putting them on my head! And when I didn’t have one on my head, Maid/Matron of Honor would say, “Oh, I need to see it with a veil… I can’t decide without one… It doesn’t look like a wedding dress without one…” So I thought, fine. I’ll just get the shortest veil I can find. And then the woman at DB kept saying to get everything I wanted now, so I could take advantage of the 10% discount. So the veil got put in with everything else and bought before I’d really thought about it. (My mom paid for all my attire).
Now I keep thinking–I DO NOT want a veil–I want to look elegant and mature, and I think the veil looks poofy and doesn’t go with my dress at all. It makes me look like a little kid. I keep dreaming about wearing an elegant updo with a pretty flower hair pin–but then I remember that this stupid veil cost my mom $70 and I feel like I have to wear it (I don’t think DB does returns). When I try to express my feelings to her or my bridesmaids, they just act like… why wouldn’t you want to wear the veil? You picked it out!
So, should I just suck it up and try to make the veil work? Or go with my dream hairdo and find a gorgeous flower to put in my hair?
Please don’t tell me to just wear the veil because it’s traditional… I don’t care about tradition.
Sorry this was so long….
Here’s my dress and a veil that looks a lot like the one I bought:
Post # 3
I have the same exact thoughts on veils as you do. (Except there is something creepy about them to me! lol) Don’t wear it. It doesn’t seem like something you want and like you said, this is the only thing that you aren’t 100% on. I am sure your mom will understand. It isn’t your MOH’s wedding. She can wear a veil on her wedding. This is YOUR day. Wear what you will the most beautiful in. Let your mom know how you feel. You can offer to try and sell the veil online to recoup some of the money.
Post # 4
Do what you want. If you don’t want to wear a veil then don’t! I think your updo with a flower sounds awesome!
Post # 5
I think if you don’t want a veil then don’t have one. It is YOUR wedding day, no one elses! I didn’t want a veil at first either buit when I started trying them on with my dress I felt different and I realised I had to have one. So if you’re still feeling that you don’t like them, go without it. Theres loads of alternatives now anyway…
Post # 6
Just another thought – to make yourself feel better, why not inquire about returning the veil, even for store credit?
Post # 7
@My_Honeycomb: I am going to take it back to DB when I get my alterations done and see if I can exchange it for something. What, I’m not sure yet, but they may have some cute hair accessories. I have it in the original packaging with all the tags still on, and my mom has the receipt.
Thank you all… I’m feeling better about this now. I really don’t want to wear it. FI isn’t the biggest fan of veils either, which is also helpful.
Post # 8
Definietly try to exchange it for a hair accessory! There are some cute Vera White headbands too. And if you can’t exchange ask to speak to a manager. If that still doesn’t work you could always try to sell it. Go for the look you want! I’m not sure if I want a veil or not, but I think Veils can sometimes hide your hairdo that you spend tons on money on.
Post # 9
@ratana187: That’s another reason why I don’t want a veil! I pride myself on being very good at beautiful and elaborate updos… I used to be the one that my girlfriends would get to do their hair for dances, and for two of my proms I did some gorgeous updos on myself. I plan on doing something beautiful and elaborate for my wedding, and I don’t want all my hard work to be hidden 🙁
Post # 10
My Maid/Matron of Honor put the veil in the bottom of her updo for her ceremony and it looked really pretty. Could you do that with yours just for the ceremony, then take it out and put the flower in for the reception? That way you won’t feel guilty for wasting your mom’s $, but most of the reception pictures can be of you with your hair how you want it.