(Closed) Second Thoughts about Wedding Dress

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

it’s TOTALLY normal!  I bought my dress back in March (getting married in Nov.) and have looked at a few dresses since, and never liked one more than mine…UNTILLL this past weekend, I went to a bridal show and saw a Maggie Sottero there for $399 that was amazing.  

However, I realized that I liked that Maggie so much because it was like the fancier version of mine, and really, something that fancy didn’t match my wedding.  And soooo….long story short, it happens!  If you want the new one, get it.  Don’t doubt yourself.  

Post # 4
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The same thing happened to me! I found my dream gown after actually purchasing my first gown. I was able to get a full refund for my first gown from David’s Bridal. I have heard that brides have had luck selling on preownedweddingdresses, oncewed, ebay, and craigslist.

Go with your heart!!!

Post # 5
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would say don’t do anything hasty! can you go back and try on the one you bought again? make sure you are 100% sure you want the new dress. even though people have luck selling their dresses, it’s possible you won’t!

Post # 6
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@ Future: How did you manage did get a full refund from David’s Bridal?  PLEASE tell me.


But yes, I now have 2 dresses, but have not been able to sell my first one 🙁  Although I love my 2nd dress much more, I’m now stuck with having paid for 2 dresses.  I think you should just stick with yours.  Honestly it’s a horrible/guilty feeling to have 2 brand new wedding dresses sitting in your closet!

Post # 7
24 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yes, i fell in love with a watters and watters gown. When I got it in my size, the a-line was so different from what i remembered it being. I was unhappy and everyone knew it. It was actually my MOH’s that talked me into possibly looking into purchasing another one. Plus I had bought it at a trunk show so i felt pressured to make a decision for a measly $200 savings.

I was just looking when I tried on the Pronovias Rania and fell in love! I knew it was the one. Since purchasing my second dress the whole wedding was gotten an upgrade. I trully believe that your dress sets the tone and the Rania is so glamourous and modern that it needed an event to match, hehehe. My linens budget nearly doubled and well as my florals. But I couldn’t be happier!

The con of something like this is that my first gown @ $1500, which i sold at

http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/ for $1000, and my second gown at $2100, definitely sets your wallet back. We are paying for everything ourselves so my fiance was not too happy about it but even he understood that as a bride YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO LOVE YOUR GOWN! And if you could afford it and have time you should follow your heart but do give it some thought and don’t make any rash decisions as i did. Maybe you can find your dress used or on ebay. i found mine on ebay, after i had purchased it for only $1000.


Post # 8
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Don’t do anything without giving yourself a little time first!  I was going to try and sell mine and switch to something else – I felt like the first dress I bought I was pressured into by my mom and it was way fancier than I wanted.  Eventually I decided it might not be realistic for me to expect that I could break even on selling my dress and buying a new one, so I dropped it.  A few months later when I went in for alterations, I was surprised how much I ended up liking my dress after the seamstress had it all pinned around and fixed up. 

In my case, it’s worked out.  Granted, I wasn’t the “OMG DREAM DRESS” type in the first place.  If you have an overwhelming need to be in love with your dress, then maybe getting a 2nd and selling the 1st would be the best choice for you 🙂  Just give it a couple weeks.

Post # 9
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think this is pretty normal.  I have seen so many posts on this site about having second thoughts.  I’m having them too!  I love my dress and love looking at a picture of myself wearing it, but I always think – is there something better?  At this point, there is no way I could get anything else.  I love my Kenneth Pool, but I think its one of those “grass is always greener” things.  Would I actually go and buy another?  No.  Do I think about the possibility of walking down the aisle in a different dress?  Yes.  It’s because I watch way too many Say Yes to the Dress episodes, I’m constantly looking at pictures of dresses online, and I see so many posts by ladies on this site second guessing their dresses and showing off the dress they finally found/ just bought!


I think the only instance where its really something to worry about is if you felt pressured to buy something very quickly and it doesn’t fit the theme of your wedding – ie you bought a huge princess ballgown and you are having a backyard wedding.


I’ve seen a number of these Say Yes to the Dress episodes where girls cancel their orders only to come back and fall in love with the SAME dress they originally wanted.


What you are feeling is TOTALLY NORMAL!  Good luck!!

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