(Closed) Second Thoughts on Bridesmaid

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
303 posts
Helper bee

sounds like a weird situation… when it doubt talk it out.  ^_^

just talk to them about it… it was probably a big misunderstanding.

Post # 4
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

i do think this is rude, considering you asked them if you would be doing it together and she said yes and decided not to but didn’t let you know. sounds like there is something going on with you guys and you may want to talk to her to clear the air, maybe she is unhappy about something and its somehow coming out the wrong way?

Post # 5
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

So when you say a triple birthday party, I assume that means you were not included this year? That is strange to me, especially since you’d specifically asked them about it before. I think it definitely needs to be addressed. Maybe just start casual – give your friend a call and say "Hey, what’s up with the party? I remember we’d talked about it a few weeks ago and I saw the invitation you sent today. I kind of assumed we’d all be doing it together again this year, did we change the plan?"

Maybe they assumed that you wouldn’t have time with planning a wedding, maybe it’s a jealousy thing, maybe they are going to surprise you by making it a birthday slash bachelorette, maybe your friend is still mad that last year you ordered a magenta instead of a maroon cake. I guess my point is there’s no way to know until you talk to them. 

Post # 7
368 posts
Helper bee

ohhhh dear, I am so sorry you are dealing with this!! I would talk with your friend casually and ask about it (either before or after) and let her talk it out. Let her know it hurt your feelings and then see if she is genuinely apologetic, if there was an honest mistake made, or if it is somthing more than that… I would hold tight and not jump to conclusions too quickly, but I definitely think you should have a heart to heart about it!! Best of luck!

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