(Closed) Second thoughts on dress…

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I did this, bought a new dress and have never looked back. I’m still trying to sell my old one (got it more than a year ago), but my new dress was a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress that came in white, and was only $260, so for me, it was an easy decision. But my old dress was $1300, so I ate that money. Oh well. It was worth it on the wedding day because I felt like me, which let me breathe a sigh of relief. The first dress I bought was not me at all, and I’m not even sure what convinced me to buy it (I think I was just tired of the never-ending search and wanted to be done with it).

Post # 4
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I say this against my better fiscal judgment, but if the money is there YES keep looking! My dress is the one part of my wedding day that is just for me. I would never ever forgive myself if I ended up wearing something everyone else loved but I didn’t like. I think you have to follow your heart on this one–it is already telling you that you don’t like your dress.

Post # 5
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with rplatzer. If you can spare the money, time and energy, do it! You don’t want to regret it for the rest of your life.

Post # 6
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3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yup, if you don’t like it now you’re probably not going to have a change of heart by the wedding. Go for what you really want so you have no regrets. Do you already have another dress in mind, and would you be able to get it in time including alterations? If you’re not a in a bind for cash I’d say focus on finding the new dress first and selling the old dress later. In fact maybe you can sell both after your wedding to recoup some of the loss.

Post # 7
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Definitely keep looking. I have a dress already and I’m currently looking into getting a new one. Everyone loved it when I bought it expect my mom. I was hoping it would grow on her, but it hasn’t. I keep hearing that it’s my dress and if I’m happy then that should be enough (she’s told me that herself), but it’s one little thing that’s going to nag at me and I’d feel better just getting one we both like. 😀 I’ll have to sell my first dress as well, but I say it’s worth the extra to feel comfortable in what you’re wearing – and what you’ll see in all those pictures when you look back through your scrapbooks!

Post # 8
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28 posts
Newbee

I have sort of the same problem. But my change or heart is more a financial issue. I originally wanted a short wedding dress and wear a great pair of shoes. I searched and couldn’t find one that was fabulous and in my price range. Then my moom went dress shopping with me and I tried on a gown just so she could see me in a long dress. She loved it. The bridal consultant loved it. Everyone in the store loved it on me. So I thought I should probably get a long dress and be more traditional. So, even though it was way more than I anticipated spending, I ordered the dress. But I have been having regrets. I keep thinking I should find something less expensive and save that money.I keep thinking of all the other things I could do with the money I spent on my gown!  Also, I miss the idea of a short dress with sensational shoes! But I know I will lose money if I cancel my dress order. I found a great inexpensive dress on Jcrew. I’m just not a dress girl. It’s not my priority for the wedding. I’m just stressed about money.

Post # 10
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s great!! I’m happy that you feel better because that’s the most important thing is that you are happy with YOUR dress. I had a similar situation when I went dress shopping over the holidays with my family and they LOVED the dress and I liked it at first and wore it for an hour and by the end I bought it (felt a little pressure) but honestly the more time I had to think about it the more I became in love with it which to me is great because it was over my budget to begin with. I look at pictures of the dress every day and get more and more excited.

Moral of the story….go with your gut feeling rather than what others feel. Kiss

Post # 11
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226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know this may not work, but have you thought of altering the original dress at all? Maybe the cost of having it changed would be less than the cost of buying an entirely new dress – unless the original dress is completely off base, in which case, forget it.

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