(Closed) Second Thoughts on your Dress

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m going through the same thing…. 

I bought my dress last Saturday and it’s absolutely beautiful, but I already have second thoughts. I think it has to do with sooooo many options and soooo many looks and designs, especially if you have researched this for a couple of weeks.

 I bought my dress from the designer, so I made an appointment to go try on my dress again next week and to take pictures this time. I think it will either reassure me in my decision or I was going to talk to the designer about the second thoughts I was having to see if things can be altered.

If its ultimately the wrong choice for you, maybe you can sell it and try to recoup some of the costs and buy a new one.

The point is that ultimately you should love your dress and feel comfortable and beautiful in it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

uuuummmmm….yeah.  I ordered my dress 6 months ago, and it came in a month ago.  I was so nervous the whole waiting period about whether I was going to like it, but everyone told me that was normal.  so it came in, I went to see it, and nothing….no emotion, no excited feelings….I thought, well it is exactly what I ordered…..so I left, feeling very underwhelmed but didn’t tell anyone.  Then for the next three weeks I started having nightmares about a hideous wedding dress, and told everyone I hated it.  They all of course said I was crazy – so I said to them:  Its my wedding day.  I will only do this once in my life, and really this is the one and only item on that day that really matters.  I don’t feel like a beautiful bride in the dress, and I really just want to be happy that day.  So they all finally said, while it is ridiculous to order another dress, I (and you) am the only one who really knows what the right dress is for you on that day.  It wasn’t it for me, so tomorrow I am going to order a new one!  I figure I can just sell it or something….if this is the only thing that goes wrong, I will be happy!

Post # 5
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I kind of have second thoughts.  I do love my dress.  But it was my second choice dress all along.  The first choice dress was $1700 and the one I bought was $1050, so that’s why I went for it.  It had a very similar look to the first one, but when I try to picture my dress in my head, I can still only picture the first one.  But ultimately, I look really good in the second one too, and I did feel special in it as well.  Maybe I’m too practical but while it’s a little disappointing to not buy my favourite, I’d rather use that $650 savings on my honeymoon!

On the other hand, I took 6 months to decide which one to order, so I would never go back on my decision after all that and I was fairly sure I could be happy with second best before I decided to order.  If I had impulsively bought a dress and then later decided it was all wrong, I might feel differently.  Generally I would try to avoid re-ordering though, it’s a bit over-the-top.  I can see where dreambml is coming from though and think it was probably the best decision for her!

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I had second thoughts about my dress but then I tried it on during the time that I was veil shopping and I fell in love with it all over again. 

Post # 7
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

I have had a couple moments where I wonder if I should have gotten a dress with a smaller train.  I only tried on three dresses, and I got the one that was my first choice.  It is super simple and I do love it.

This is my dress.  I can always exchange it, but I doubt I will.  I did change the sash color.  The only reason the train is an issue for me is because I’m having an outdoor wedding.  But I’m sure it will be fine.
I haven’t had any alterations (and don’t need to).  Apparently I am the perfect height for wedding dresses because all of the ones I tried on fit perfectly.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2008

My second thoughts about my dress came as we hammer out details – suddenly realizing that we want a more casual feel.  Thus, my original dress with lots of beading and detailing is more than what I want for the feel of the wedding.  So I’m trying to sell mine (it’s listed here, craigslist, and soon on ebay) in order to get a simpler, less detailed dress. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I had buyers remorse the few days after I bought my dress. However, when I revisited it a few days later, and return to pictures of it, I love it even more. Give it a few days/a week and you may find that you love yours just the same

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had second thoughts before I even bought my dress! I went to the Vera Wang sample sale on a whim, didn’t sleep there overnight or anything, just waltzed in and browsed. I was by myself so it didn’t feel very official, you know? I wasn’t planning on getting anything, just seeing what a big sample sale was like (prices, crowd, etc). Then I tried on a dress that blew my mind. Hair up, haute couture; hair down, spring goddess. Fit like a glove, great condition, the whole she-bang. I knew if I didn’t get it I would be really sad, and being 90% off (yes, you read that right) really excited my inner sales-junkie. I tried calling my mom (we live in different states), but she didn’t pick up. I was so worried she’d hate me forever if I got my dress without her. 

But she said later "If that’s the one, that’s it. There’s no point in waiting for me and looking at dresses you don’t want." And when she finally saw it, she loved it.

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