(Closed) Second Thoughts – VENT

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s way too late to change anything but I think that maybe you could move the celebration somewhere else for an afterparty so you can spend time with the people who don’t want to leave early?  You can still have fun with them after the wedding!

Post # 4
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


I totally get it. Don’t worry, I think it’s actually cool because now you can have the best of both worlds! The older folks get to have their ceremony and reception early and the younger ones can stick around for the afterparty! 

Look around the area where your reception is or where the hotel is…find a cool restaurant or bar and organize an informal “afterparty” at that venue. Reserve tables there or pick a place that you know won’t be too crowded so you’ll be sure there will be enough space for everyone. You can even informally mention it to friends and family and pick a time.

I would let things cool off for a while with your Mom. You can always mention it to her closer to the date.

Post # 5
23 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

I second the afterparty idea! And so you will have a whole day full of events, how wonderful! You will also get tons of pretty pics at different times of the day (morning sun, afternoon, sunset, evening), and in different settings. I got married at 1 PM, celebrated until 12 AM, and loved being a bride the whole day AND the night. First, I wanted a sunset ceremony, but now I couldn’t be happier with my early afternoon ceremony (you can’t imagine how fast the day goes by!). Don’t worry, dear, everything will work out just fine!

Post # 6
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sorry your mom bullied you into this decision! I agree with the above posters–don’t change it now but think about what the extra time in the afternoon/evening frees you up to do! Afterparty, photo portrait session, early flight for the honeymoon–there are lots of great options! I think once you have a plan for that time that you love, you’ll feel better about it.

Post # 7
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

PS we’re date twins!

Post # 8
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Yay afterparty!

I almost picked an early wedding JUST SO we could have an afterparty… but tons of our guests are flying 3+ hours into town, so J reminded me that evening would be easier for them.

It’ll work out; maybe you can make reservations at a club or restuarant or lounge for the afterparty?

Post # 9
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree that having a less formal “afterparty” after your official reception could be a good option – the older guests probably would not attend, but it might give you more time with younger guests that are staying in town that day, anyway. I understand how you feel about your Mom – my experience with my own mom has been really similar. Hang in there!

Post # 10
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Agree about the after party!  And try to make the best of the time of day you chose.  Can you gather outside, or have a cocktail hour outside?  (Not sure if they have cocktail hours for early receptions.) 

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