(Closed) Second Time Around

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
415 posts
Helper bee

There is no reason why someone marrying for a second time can’t or shouldn’t have a big wedding if they want one.  Don’t listen to those people who say to just go to the courhouse if that is not what you and your FI want to do.

Post # 3
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I completely understand. My situation is the exact same. This wedding is being done as if it’s my first wedding though And I’m not even thinking about it being my second. It’s your fiancés first for one – so he should be able to enjoy a bigger wedding if that is what you guys want. Even if it wasn’t his first, it’s still your guys’ day, and all about what you guys want. Who cares what others think. Honestly the people who will be there should love and care about you enough to not judge your wedding choices and won’t make snarky remarks. They will just enjoy the day. Do what makes you guys happy. It’s your celebration and deserves to be celebrated just as much as any other wedding! 🙂

Post # 6
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I completely understand the annoying side of it. But you are 100% right – you should be able to celebrate joining with a man who treats you and your children right. It is a grand and joyous event! 🙂

Post # 7
8159 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

say” thank you for you suggestions but we’ve got everything handled”



Post # 8
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t mean to come across as snarky, but what kind of wedding did you have the first time?

The reason I ask is because if you had a traditional wedding already, I can see family/friends being less than enthusiastic to go to another one.  I have a cousin getting married for the second time next year (and she’s not even 30 years old).  She had a big wedding the first time (with 2 bridal showers) and she’s having a big wedding again.  This is her FI’s first wedding, so she thinks they should be entitled to have everything again.  So we are all invited to yet another shower, are expected to provide another gift for said shower, and will have to provider another wedding gift.  None of us are happy about it since we spent so much money the first time; it’s not like she returned any of our gifts because she got divorced.

So while I don’t think you have to go to city hall for an encore wedding, if you’ve already had the big celebration and want to have another one, it would explain why you may be getting some unsolicited opinions.

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