Second Time Bride

posted 4 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Not engaged yet but the ring is being made. I will also be a second time bride and like you I really just want a courthouse or something small but my future Fiance has never been married. We chatted about it and he was fine with doing something small. Talk to him and try to find a compromise. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

My second wedding was 15 years after my first wedding. I had the big to do, 80 guests, 3bridesmaids 3 groomsmen, the whole deal. It was great and I didn’t have any guilt or feel awkward about it.

 

My second husband died five months after we got married, and I remarried three and a half years after that second wedding. At that time, I didn’t want to make a big deal about it and even told my husband to be that I would be okay with eloping. He’s an introvert so I thought he might go for it, but because it was his first wedding he wanted something. We got married at a bed-and-breakfast that did small weddings. We had 21 people, my daughter was my only attendant and everything was beautiful and wonderful. We had a small dinner reception afterwards.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

I’m actually a 3rd Timer 🤦‍♀️.  My first wedding was huge catholic and traditional.  My second wedding I wanted it to be small but it was his first so his mom really wanted the full deal. We had about a hundred people.  We got married outside at his parents farm and the receoption at a small country club.  I was a little embarrassed “walking down the aisle” again but everyone was happy for us. This time we’re eloping.  It was supposed to be Kauai, but COVID squashed that so glacier national park it will be.  My parents and sisters insisted on coming so we’re still having a few guests.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I’m a second time bride. By the time our wedding rolls around it will be 9 years since my first. My first we were going to have 30 guests, but it blew out to 75, I was so nervous the whole ceremony that I didn’t enjoy or remember any of it. This time we are only have 21 guests – people keep saying it’s becayse it’s our second time, but we’re both introverts and don’t want a huge wedding, nor do we know enough people to have that big of a wedding.

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Atlanta, Ga

I’m in your shoes and so is my fiancé. He mentioned the courthouse but I’m not having it. I think something intimate with maybe about 50 people  and skipping some of the traditions for more fun stuff. I’m doing it in 2022 so hopefully itll be a more “gathering friendly” time. Fingers and toes crossed. 

Im insisting on the wedding for three reasons. 1) Family only gets together for weddings and funerals and we’ve been to so many funerals lately our wedding will be a great reason to bring family together for something positive. I truly want to share the day with my close friends and family. 2) Both of our 1st weddings sucked. And we deserve a do-over!!! 3) I want our kids to be involved and his son in particular is excited about it, my son is a teenager so he is indifferent to everything. But this day will make our family officially official. 

Now, I have a “royal” affair in mind and I still have to get him totally on board by compromising a little here or there but I really want a wedding so we will see :-).

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Your story sounds just like mine.

I’m a second time bride my first wedding was just the civil ceremony in a chapel with 10 of her closest friends and family.my second wedding was the wedding of my dreams with my current husband we enloped in this haunted mansion we got married on Halloween and we had close to 25 people there due to covered we did cut down on our winning list everything was outdoor spaced out now regretted one bit…

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Yep. Here. 

Super young first time. Not long lasted.

I married my husband ( I consider him my only husband) in 2019 and it was his first. We had the whole thing. The whole big damn thing and I hated every minute of it. My husband loved every minute of it. 

In retrospect, I am happy my husband had the wedding he wanted and I understand that there should have been more compromise with us.  Neither of my weddings were great for me for various reasons. The second one was for reasons beyond my control.

However,  if we ever do a vowel renewal in the future, it will my way. And small. On an island somewhere in the middle of nowhere. Alone.

🤣😂

I also, got a really great vacation out of the wedding and that was my one thing, if I agreed to do a big wedding.

I wanted my vacation. And I got it. 🙌🏻

14 days in the beautiful Mediterranean.  

I did take this opportunity to have a custom ring made

( rings later)  for me, which I didn’t have on my radar the first time, that’s lots of fun. 

 

Edit: 

 

I would like to add  that the second time around I was also much more aware of my guests and what would allow them to have a good time.   I wanted them to be engaged in the ordeal and not feel like bystandards. So we had lots and lots of interaction during the ceremony, and ring passes and anything I could think of so the guests HAD a memorable time.  Like we called out everyone of our our of town guests during the ceremony thanking them for traveling, acknowledged and had stand ( we told him first) our friend who introduced us so everyone could see. The guests loved it!  This went along with our ceremony script so it fit and flowed well and it’s just goes on. Our officiant was full of similar ideas.. 

 

I get that isn’t everyone’s thing but I wanted our guests to feel loved and have it be memorable, many mentioned later that it was because of these small details. ❤️

 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I got married on Halloween of 2020…

Covid in full lock down. I managed to throw an intimate ceremony of 25 people. 

 

My first wedding was fast. Fourth house and rented a restaurant. 

Nothing big as well that wedding consisted of 15 people.

My second wedding to my current husband was his first and like many of you. I too didn’t want to take away from his experience. He wanted the whole enchilada. During the pandemic a wedding of 100 guest was reduce to only 25. And it couldn’t if been better. I did not have anything remotely the same from my first wedding. 

 

Best experience of my life this far. 

I can post picture if anyone cares to see.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2020

 

@betterwithyou28 here you go hun!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

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@rubiehrt79:  What a gorgeous wedding.  I especially like the matching face masks.  Why none on the women though?

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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@stateofbeeing:  the ladies didn’t want to smudge their makeup.

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