(Closed) Second Time Brides? How old were you?

posted 5 years ago in Encore
Post # 16
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I married the first time at 18. Stayed married for 26 years. 

He cheated on me at year 18. I stayed until all children were grown and gone and walked out the front door. I was 44 years old

I married again at at age 54. Married 607 days today. 

Post # 17
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235 posts
Helper bee

My first marriage I was 24, and divorced at 29. Met my Fiance last year when I was 39, and am getting married next year at 40.

Post # 18
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I got married to the wrong person the first time around.  Meet him at 18, married at 21.  Together 14 years or so. Divorced 3 years ago. We were never really compatible and I made excuses for him and that he would change (of course we know they don’t change, no one does).  Made a list of my wants and intolerable around the same time I met and starting dating my SO 2 years ago.  This time around it’s so different and exactly how it should be.  We just went shopping and selected a great ring that he’s having custom changes (metal colors) to and we will probably be getting married in the fall this year or the spring next year.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I’m 25 and my first and only marriage will be to my current FI! We are getting married later this year! However…

Fiance has been married before me. His first marriage was to his high school sweetheart, they dated for 6 years and married at 21, divorced a year + a few months later.

I saw your post and asked Fiance if he could change what age he got married at, would he? He said yes because he felt they were too young (his wife left him because she felt like she was missing out on being young), but he also said no because then he wouldn’t have met me 🙂 But he says he definitely felt like his marriage would’ve had a better chance had they waited until 25-26.

I feel like if you choose the right person there’s no such thing as ‘too young.’ I have also seen people get married at 50yo and divorce shortly after. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I married at 31 and divorced after four years. I am now 42 and will be 43 when I get married next year.

It’s his first marriage.

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Post # 22
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I was married the first time at age 21. We met when I was 16. 31 years later and 3 kids and 2 affairs later, divorced after 31 years being married. I’ll be 53 when I get married in November 

Post # 23
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47 posts
Newbee

I met my exH at 15 and dated him for 5 years. Married him at 20, he was 21. We got divorced 8 years later. I’m 30 now and feel like you have to reach a certain age to truly know what you want in a relationship. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

Married at 26.  Widowed at 30.  Waiting (and starting to plan) at 44.

Post # 25
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I married my high school sweetheart at 21. We were each other’s first everythings. He was in the military, so we moved three times and went through two deployments together. After he got out of the military (when I thought things would finally settle down and we could enjoy each other!) our relationship just unraveled. I think he and I did a lot of growing separately over the years, and at the end of the day, we weren’t the people we thought we married. So, divorced six years later at 27. 

I’ll be 30 when I marry my Fiance. This relationship is SO different. I feel like I figured out who I was and met the guy that just FITS me. Parts of me wish I would have waited to marry the first time around, but everything in my life has led to me meeting my amazing fiance. 🙂 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Married at 23 to an older well-established man. Had two children and divorced 8 years later. I changed and grew up SO much between 20 and 30 and did not see the huge red flags that were waving at me before I married the first time.

Despite a divorce, which SUCKED, I loved being married! but it took a while. Met husband number 2 at age 41 and married him at 43. He’s the nicest, most genuine guy. Not handy at ALL, but a good guy-very happy😀

Post # 27
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Married at 19, divorced at 21. My first husband was a good friend of mine for years before we dated, so we rushed into marriage. 3 weeks after our wedding, he quit his job and the abuse started. We were married for about 18 months. I’ll be 25 when we get married, but we might have to push the date back a year. Time is just coming too quickly. 

Post # 28
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18 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I was 19 when I started dating my ex husband and we got married when I was 22. I left almost exactly a year later. I knew I shouldn’t have married him. He was cheating on me the entirety of our relationship and I was fully aware of it the whole time. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I think subconsciously I married him because I thought he was the best I was going to get. While we were together though, I lost 120 pounds and it was after that when I realized that I deserved much more than that, no matter how much I weighed. 

I have been dating my fiance for a little over a year now and when we get married next September, I will be 26. Not a single doubt in my mind this time around! This time I KNOW I have the best! 🙂

Post # 29
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182 posts
Blushing bee

Started dating my ex on my 21st birthday. Knew him since I was 16. Engaged at 22, married at 23. We are currently in divorce mediation because I left shortly after turning 25. We bring out the worst of each other. Waiting to be an encore I guess! 

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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bywater:  you brought tears to my eyes with six words. Wishing you all the best for wedding #2

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