(Closed) Secondary IF and heartbreak.

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t have any personal experience with low morphology, but I do think there are other options before ICSI. Has your husband seen a urologist yet? I think sometimes a urologist will prescribe him Clomid or investigate to see if he has a varicocele that’s causing the low morphology. (Those can be surgically repaired.) 

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! But I definitely wouldn’t give up all hope or assume that ICSI is the only route before talking to your RE and having your husband see a urologist. Wishing you lots of luck!

Post # 3
2467 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

MrsMaskatoBe:  I admit I’ve been chart stalking you. So sorry to hear you are going through this. We now ttc #2 ourselves and are on our third cycle. Back when we were ttc #1, I had a similar experience – my dh had 2% normal morphology (strict criteria) – I also googled myself into a frenzy. However, I asked my obgyn about it soon after and she said that there has not been much evidence to suggest that strict morphology is relevant to couples ttc without ivf. She pretty much said not to worry about it. I honestly didn’t buy it, but less than 2 weeks later I got my bfp. I think my obgyn was probably correct that morphology wasn’t all that important as long as number and motility were ok. Long story to say, try not to worry too much until you see what your re has to say – it may not be as bad as Google claims it to be. According to Google, my son is a medical marvel! 

Post # 4
7310 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Some people have success addressing morphology with diet and lifestyle changes, and supplements. Don’t Google yourself into fear. It’s not worth it. Talk with a urologist who specializes in male infertility, get him on a good diet/vitamin/supplement cocktail, maybe get his hormones checked, and see where things are in 6 months.

Post # 6
6897 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

MrsMaskatoBe:  I have no experience. How come if you conceived naturally and rather fast the first time, they are telling you that you need to do IVF? I would think doing IUI would make more sense or doing some sort of medicated cycle. Honestly, I think you still have a chance. I would definitely try other options before attempting IVF. I understand the cost can seem intimidating. If my doctor said we needed to do IVF, I would probably have to wait a few years because we don’t have that kind of money either. Best of luck and sending you positive vibes.

Post # 7
1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

No experience with male factor but I have done IVF, it definitely is a huge financial risk. Feel free to ask me any questions, I’ll do my best to answer them. I followed your pregnancy with B and wishing you all the luck in providing a sibling! 

Post # 8
1492 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You yourself said “maybe he was having an off day”. I’m hopeful that’s the case. In our journey there was nothing wrong with Darling Husband but in researching I found out that many Drs won’t get concerned with sperm issues unless it is reoccurring with more than one SA. There are so many variables with sperm production try and not stress. Has your Darling Husband been sick lately? Something like a high fever can kill sperm for up to three months! I hope your RE appt is helpful and you get a plan in place. Best of luck!

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Post # 9
621 posts
Busy bee

Hi there, first I am so sorry you are going through this! We are dealing with male factor as well and it’s so hard and confusing. DH’s first SA was terrible, as in straight to ICSI terrible, but he had a second test and it was better. Not fantastic, but better, so that maybe we could try IUI. I’m not sure how these things work (despite my incessant googling!), but I would think maybe having a previous child would indicate it may not be as dire as it sounds right now? Maybe there’s the possibility that with some lifestyle modification, diet, supplements, etc. things can turn around. The hardest thing is waiting for answers, but as I am quickly discovering, it’s so hard to know anything from one test. Our issue is motility so I am less clear on morphology, but maybe look into vitamins and supplements and try another test in 2-3 months. Wishing you the best of luck!

Post # 10
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We dealt with IF for 4 years that was only resolved with DE (now 14 weeks pregnant). We didn’t have sperm issues, but I did lots of research. There are things you can try first to improve sperm quality. Look at Pulling Down the Moon. They have a supplement cocktail you can buy (very expensive). But do some research. I would try to improve quality for 6 months. If that doesn’t work, move on to IVF. We wasted many years hoping we could be the miracle and make it happen without IVF and eventually DE. 

Good Luck!

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