Post # 1
My husband and I are on our 10th cycle ttc.
We were referred to a RE after 9 months due to a cyst on my ovary and inability to get pregnant after getting pregnant easily–twice. (One live birth, one m/c).
i had my first appt Jan 9. I already had all of my lab testing done, so she did an ultrasound to monitor my cyst and ordered an hsg for me, a SA for Darling Husband. She told me to call with CD 1 as I was CD27 that day. She wanted to check on the 3cm cyst to see if it was a corpus luteum cyst or something else.
i went in that next Monday on CD3 to monitor the cyst. It was still 3cm. She instructed me to be on 5mg of Aygestin twice daily to try to see if it would collapse. She also set up my hsg and SA for that Friday.
my hsg ended up showing no signs of blocked tubes or adhesions. They told us they would call us by next Friday with the SA results If there was anything abnormal. Last Friday passed and I didn’t get a call. We had discussed and put together a game plan of doing clomid+iui next cycle if the SA came back good. which I was excited to do.
Yesterday afternoon I got the call. Darling Husband has low morphology (1% strict) when 4% is the normal marker. After googling myself to death, I am devastated. Everything is saying to skip iui and go straight to icsi with IVF. How do people afford this? we do well for ourselves, but that’s a lot of money for something that’s not guaranteed!
we have our follow up consult Friday at 11 am. I am so sad, so angry and so nervous on what she is going to say.
Does anyone have any experience with low morphology or any other irregular SA issues? I know nobody that has gone through this and I am feeling so defeated and alone.
Post # 2
I don’t have any personal experience with low morphology, but I do think there are other options before ICSI. Has your husband seen a urologist yet? I think sometimes a urologist will prescribe him Clomid or investigate to see if he has a varicocele that’s causing the low morphology. (Those can be surgically repaired.)
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! But I definitely wouldn’t give up all hope or assume that ICSI is the only route before talking to your RE and having your husband see a urologist. Wishing you lots of luck!
Post # 3
MrsMaskatoBe: I admit I’ve been chart stalking you. So sorry to hear you are going through this. We now ttc #2 ourselves and are on our third cycle. Back when we were ttc #1, I had a similar experience – my dh had 2% normal morphology (strict criteria) – I also googled myself into a frenzy. However, I asked my obgyn about it soon after and she said that there has not been much evidence to suggest that strict morphology is relevant to couples ttc without ivf. She pretty much said not to worry about it. I honestly didn’t buy it, but less than 2 weeks later I got my bfp. I think my obgyn was probably correct that morphology wasn’t all that important as long as number and motility were ok. Long story to say, try not to worry too much until you see what your re has to say – it may not be as bad as Google claims it to be. According to Google, my son is a medical marvel!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Some people have success addressing morphology with diet and lifestyle changes, and supplements. Don’t Google yourself into fear. It’s not worth it. Talk with a urologist who specializes in male infertility, get him on a good diet/vitamin/supplement cocktail, maybe get his hormones checked, and see where things are in 6 months.
Post # 5
bananasareyellow: hi!!!! as you can see, my chart is zzzzz this month. I’m so sorry you’re facing fear and anxiety about ttc #2. Your situation and journey is really inspiring. I’m so glad to hear that the 2% worked in your favor. I just don’t know how we could make two babies and now this is an issue? Perhaps he was having an off day. But then again, we have had an off 10 months. Thank you love!
lovekiss: KatieBklyn: thank you ladies! Yes I hate googling, but when they rattle those numbers off to me and say “see you in 3 days” my mind starts racing. I’m sure they will refer him to a urologist. Thank you!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
MrsMaskatoBe: I have no experience. How come if you conceived naturally and rather fast the first time, they are telling you that you need to do IVF? I would think doing IUI would make more sense or doing some sort of medicated cycle. Honestly, I think you still have a chance. I would definitely try other options before attempting IVF. I understand the cost can seem intimidating. If my doctor said we needed to do IVF, I would probably have to wait a few years because we don’t have that kind of money either. Best of luck and sending you positive vibes.
Post # 7
No experience with male factor but I have done IVF, it definitely is a huge financial risk. Feel free to ask me any questions, I’ll do my best to answer them. I followed your pregnancy with B and wishing you all the luck in providing a sibling!
Post # 8
You yourself said “maybe he was having an off day”. I’m hopeful that’s the case. In our journey there was nothing wrong with Darling Husband but in researching I found out that many Drs won’t get concerned with sperm issues unless it is reoccurring with more than one SA. There are so many variables with sperm production try and not stress. Has your Darling Husband been sick lately? Something like a high fever can kill sperm for up to three months! I hope your RE appt is helpful and you get a plan in place. Best of luck!
Post # 9
Hi there, first I am so sorry you are going through this! We are dealing with male factor as well and it’s so hard and confusing. DH’s first SA was terrible, as in straight to ICSI terrible, but he had a second test and it was better. Not fantastic, but better, so that maybe we could try IUI. I’m not sure how these things work (despite my incessant googling!), but I would think maybe having a previous child would indicate it may not be as dire as it sounds right now? Maybe there’s the possibility that with some lifestyle modification, diet, supplements, etc. things can turn around. The hardest thing is waiting for answers, but as I am quickly discovering, it’s so hard to know anything from one test. Our issue is motility so I am less clear on morphology, but maybe look into vitamins and supplements and try another test in 2-3 months. Wishing you the best of luck!
Post # 10
We dealt with IF for 4 years that was only resolved with DE (now 14 weeks pregnant). We didn’t have sperm issues, but I did lots of research. There are things you can try first to improve sperm quality. Look at Pulling Down the Moon. They have a supplement cocktail you can buy (very expensive). But do some research. I would try to improve quality for 6 months. If that doesn’t work, move on to IVF. We wasted many years hoping we could be the miracle and make it happen without IVF and eventually DE.