"Secret" Social Media Accounts – How Would You Feel?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you feel like something was up if you discovered "secret" social media accounts?

    Yes, I would be suspicious

    No, I wouldn't see this as cause for concern

    It would depend on my SO's explanation for the other account(s)

    Other (explain in comments)

  • Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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    somedaymrsj :  Nope! With his history of being inappropriate and him not adding her to the new account, I would be incredibly suspicious. Clearly he is using the new account, so if he wasn’t doing anything he shouldn’t be, why wouldnt he just add her to that account? From my limited Snapchat knowledge, even if he did add her to the new account and he was being shady, she still wouldnt know… so I dont see the point in this and I think he’s a sketch-pad

    Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

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    annabeth929 :  I disagree, I don’t think OP’s question was clear about what type of accounts.  

    OP, if my DH had an active facebook or insta account in addition to his normal one that he kept from me, I’d be extremely suspicious.

    I don’t think DH knows I have Linkedin, Twitter or Snapchat, but he is not on them.  I would of course tell him if he brought it up, otherwise there’s no reason for me to. 

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee

    I have had an issue in a couple of past relationships with the guy talking to women behind my back (even if not actively cheating). In my experience, this issue does not just magically go away.

    If they claim to have resolved these issues, and your cousin’s husband is serious about putting your cousin at ease, he needs to be completely transparent about his social media use. No secret or secondary accounts, no suspicious behaviour, and he should be completely open about what he is doing and whom he is messaging and why. This second Snapchat account business is bound to set off her insecurities. I wouldn’t trust it.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

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    somedaymrsj :  Just read your update – this exact same thing happened to me with snapchat, when I got a new phone about 18 months ago!  I’d forgotten about it because I don’t really use it. 

    So from memory, snapchat lets you make more than one username with the same email or something and the process is confusing (and I am normally pretty tech savvy)  I actually made an entirely new account with a similar username by accident, and didn’t even realise until a friend from work asked if I’d seen his snap and I couldn’t see it.  I did the same thing as the husband, when I realised I logged out and figured out how to log into my original one, since I had more of my friends on that one. 

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