- 5 years ago
So I’ve been lurking the boards for a few months and I thought you ladies might be of some help…
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and weve always known we would get married, but we are in college right now so the “when” we would get engaged was the only question. He decided back in November that he wanted to propse in the next few months, so we went out ring shopping and found a setting that was exactly what we were looking for and in our price range! It was perfect! A few years ago his mom offered a diamond that she has for us to use whenever we decided we were ready, so we are using that as the center stone.
I already know he has the ring and had the stone put in it, now hes just working on the proposal which will hopefully come at the end of April, but this weekend things got tricky…
We were home the weekend, spending some time with our families, when my grandmother tells us that she has a ring she wants to show us because she wants to offer it to my boyfriend as an engagement ring. Neither of us were sure about what to do because we can’t tell anyone that he has a ring and is waiting to propose until he talks to my dad one last time and gets the official go ahead from him. My Grandma, though I love her dearly, would tell everyone and make things complicated for us. Her feelings are also easily hurt so I don’t know how we can still keep things a secret, let down easy, and let her know we had a ring before she offered hers so that she is not upset when we get engaged. Her ring is GORGEOUS and we would have taken it in a heart beat had we known before, but now we have a ring which already has the stone his mom offered and that we are both also in love with. I have an older sister and two younger sister that her ring could also go to, but my sister is in just as serious of a relationship as I am, but she only offered it to us and I got the feeling that she specifically wanted it to go to me.
I guess after all this rambling what I am trying to ask is, does anyone know how I can say no to the ring without 1. spoiling the secret, and 2. hurting her feelings? I am struggling because I really wish I could have both rings but I know that is not an option.
Any advice at all would be amazing!