(Closed) Secret soon-to-be engagement possibly blown by Grandma's ring offer? Help!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If you already have a ring you love, then tell grandma no thanks.  You have other sisters she can give it to so it stays in the family.  If you take it and wear your FMIL’s stone, your grandma will be disappointed she didn’t have the option to give it to one of your sisters.  I would let her know politely that you appreciate the offer and the love behind it but your fiance has his heart set on using his mother’s stone and it means a lot to him for you to feel like you’re a part of his family in that way.  No need to reveal the proposal is coming sooner rather than later.

Post # 4
Hostess
11696 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Perhaps tell her that your FH has a stone from his family that he really wants to use – this way you don’t need to tell her that it’s a done deal but that he has a family heirloom that’s equally important.  Make sure to thank her and let her know how much the gesture means to you. 

Post # 5
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1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@auburnbee:  I agree with PP’s and then you could even lean towards telling her how happy your sister would be to get the same offer 🙂

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