(Closed) Secret Vasectomy

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 62
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867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

What a horrible thing to do.  I would agree with her advice, RUN RUN RUN!

 

Post # 63
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think this advice is extreme at all.  It’s being decieved repeatedly by the one person who is supposed to be open with you 100% of the time.  

Post # 64
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3460 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@MrsBroccoli:  No, he shouldn’t have lied and said his sperm count was good, but for all we know he said something like “My sperm are fine” which is true.

According to wiki: “During the procedure, the vasa deferentia of a man are severed, and then tied/sealed in a manner such to prevent sperm from entering into the seminal stream (ejaculate).”  Thus…his sperm are not fine because they are not making it into the ejaculate.  It’s beyond splitting hairs to say he had ok sperm in him, just not in his ejeculate, because if he had a test done, it would have shown no (or so low to be none) sperm count.

FWIW, I agree Prudence shouldn’t have said immediately get a divorce.  But, by choosing not to have children, you may not be aware that if they were actively TTC as she stated, then I think any couple would tell you it’s a series of conversations about having children (not just an offhand remark) and thus deliberate deception.

Post # 65
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669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Awful, just awful!  Their marriage was built on lies from day one.  So sad.  That poor woman was put in a deeply saddening and awful situation.  My heart goes out to her.

Post # 66
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669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Thinking about it some more, I’m not sure divorce is the answer.  Marriage is supposed to be through the good times and the bad, sickness and in health……this is, by far, a very bad time.  I think lots of counseling and relationship rebuilding is needed here.

Post # 67
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78 posts
Worker bee

That is so horrible. I really feel for her. I would lose all trust in the person who did that to me.

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