Post # 32
We eloped last year on July 7th. It didn’t make sense to us that we had to wait another year to be married because we needed to save money to host a huge wedding for 5 sets of families and friends. The big wedding was what everyone else wanted and expected. Wesate happy to do it for our families but the fact was we also just wanted to be married, so we eloped. We did tell everyone and after the shock wore off they were happy for us… And then wanting to knowa bout a the big family wedding.
The big wedding will still take place but now on our one year anniversary. And we are calling it our renewal of vows and uniting as family ( I have a 7 yr old daughter that wasn’t there when we eloped).
For us I have to say it was the best decision! A lot of the pressure was taken off us to throw an amazing wedding for everyone. And since none of the parents are financially assisting with the wedding we feel no guilt in it being a renewal ceremony.
It was also really nice to have our own private moment. The wedding day is such a whirl wind of activity and people. We had the chance to remember we were there for us and our love only. Nour just as our relationship started with just us as did our marriage. Then my daughter will join us and we will take vows as a family. So it will still be very special and unquie.
Post # 33
Hey doing the same thing. Getting married at the courthouse secretly tomorrow and having a bigger wedding in August. Very excited-hope to get pics to share!
Post # 34
I say go for it! I was in a wedding where the the bride and groom got married at city hall and had their wedding exactly a year later. While it was not broadcasted to the entire guest list, it was also not kept a secret. The officiant was very easy going about it and had a mock certificate for them to sign and had it framed for them. The invite was also written to celebrate their marriage and not necessarily their wedding. There was no deceit and everyone had a great time!
Post # 35
Good for you! Wish we had the guts to be so spontaneous…
Post # 36
Why not elope and then have a vow renewal later?
The elopement is your wedding.
Post # 38
We did the fun leap year, court house, wed on wed deal… Fun! And so happy with the special day! ((((-:
Post # 39
I did this with my ex husband too. we had a big wedding planned and when it started getting out of hand with 200 of his mothers friends… I just said I cant handle it- so we got married in our backyard.
it was sweet. we didnt tell anyone except our friends that stood up. was the best secret ever 🙂 our kids and everyone know now… he still wishes me a happy anniversary ever yr even tho we are not married (we have 3 kids together and get along really well)
I am engaged now, to the person I will stay with for the rest of my life, and we will be eloping this spring. we have children (not together) and its too much of a hassle to plan a wedding out of town with our kids and ask family to help w them. I want a special moment for us. and eloping is it.
if the OP did elope, I would love to see her update this post and show some pictures!!