(Closed) Secretly Wish For An "Oops" Baby

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Boy is he right on, I am TTC and still don’t think I’m ready!!! lol There were definitely times when I was on BC that I wouldn’t have minded an oops baby when AF was mysteriously late. 

Post # 4
Hostess
6055 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

Yes. Its made harder when you SO won’t talk about the future but has said that he has wished that it had oops happened. Difficult moral dilema. 

Post # 5
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When we were NTNP I wished for an oops pregnacy each week beacause Darling Husband was not ready. We’ve been together 5 years and I am sooo ready to pop out a little baby. :o)

Post # 6
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3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@CherryWaves:  I went off the pill last April. For 11 months I secretly hoped to get pregnant. This April we went on vacation and had lots of carefree sex and voila: I got pregnant. It was a little scary at first because it wasn’t planned and thought out. After 2 days it was all about excitement!!!! I am 7 weeks now and OVER THE MOON!!

Post # 7
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3320 posts
Sugar bee

Kind of. I’m getting married next month, and with a big move planned Fall 2014, I know that the baby thing needs to be either right after the wedding, or we need to wait about 3 years for me to establish myself in a new job. Neither of us is happy with those two options, so part of me really wants to just have an oopsy right after the wedding, so I don’t have to wait too long, but feel like I rushed it since it was an “oh my how’d that happen!?” moment. lol

Post # 8
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes! But I’m just upsetting myself with my stupid hopes, its hard enough to get pregnant while trying an oops feels just about impossible. But I was late this month so I got my hopes up, took a test and ended up disappointed of course.

I hate waiting for TTC! 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I definitely wanted an oops baby. Darling Husband wouldn’t talk about babies, he kept saying another two years even after 3 or 4 years had passed lol. Fortunately the day our BFF’s baby was born he woke up and was like ok it’s time. Then while getting things ready, i.e. starting prenatals, going off the pill, getting insurance and short term disability lined up/straightened out, changing jobs, I was hoping it would just happen. I was even taking HPT’s on nights I knew I’d be drinking a lot (like our Halloween party, New Year’s party, etc) “just to make sure” and ending up disappointed. Then our first month actively TTC Darling Husband went out of town on my peak days. Then I was hoping for a Valentine’s baby the next month since that happened to be my peak day. Then the next month was my birthday and I wished for a baby whenever I blew out my candles. Clearly someone was listening to my wishes because we conceived on my birthday lol. 

Post # 10
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I lolled when I saw this title – I am definitely hoping for an oops baby!  I’m more qualified than Darling Husband but he makes more money than me and we have been battling with whether it is worth if for me to complete my credentials THEN have a baby, or just have the baby and lean more heavily on his income (I dont want to work FT right after).  Now we are starting the prenatals, doc visits, talking to people, this should be my last month of BCP and all the thinking and processing is working against my womb!  I just want to get pregnant already and then have to deal with it 🙂

Post # 11
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966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I certainly would have loved an oops baby, but only after we were married. I was always the one who wanted a baby like yesterday, but we had a plan of when we were going to TTC. As that time approached, I was super excited, but my husband was still a bit reluctant. What changed all that was his brother and his wife having a baby. Holding his niece for the first time gave him crazy baby fever and he was like “we need to have a baby now!”. Hahaha. I’m now 14 weeks pregnant and were both ecstatic!

 

Post # 13
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4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

All the time. 

My life is about to get insanely hectic and getting pregnant would postpone a good half of it (the half that I’m not looking forward to). Granted, having a baby is hectic and stressful too, but… you get the idea. I would never sabotage my BC, though… but if it fails, it fails. 

Post # 14
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621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes! We are definitely not ready for a child, but I know that we would make it work if it did happen. Just a little longer to wait! (OK like 3 more years)

Post # 15
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I too would love an oops baby, especially since I lost my first oops baby in March at 7 weeks. It made us both realise how much we want kids together and ASAP and was the reason why we bought our wedding forward by a year. (Had we not, it would have been wedding, house, babies… about 5 years time!) I haven’t gone back on the BCP and need to be careful from now until December, which is when our Destination Wedding is. I was due to go on vacation and found out hours before I was meant to go to the airport that I was miscarrying, so now I’m petrified of it happening again. I’d quite happily be a little bit pregnant come the wedding but I don’t want to risk not being able to fly due to a second miscarriage. 

So now it’s just a waiting game…. there’s never an ideal time to have a baby we figured. I need to still move back to be with him, get a new job, us buy a house together, so it will no doubt be an oops baby! But Fiance will be more than pleased at that! 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re not going to start trying for a year, but I think an “oops” baby would be great. 😛

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