Post # 1
Any other “Waiting to TTC” bee’s secretly wish they’d just have an “oops” baby?
AF was a little late this month, and I found myself silently hoping that the stars, moon and sun had aligned and my BC pills didn’t work. Apparently not; Aunt Flo showed up with a vengeance…
To be clear, I’m not sabatoging my BC at all. I’m still taking it as prescribed. I believe that to be on the same lines as a girlfriend trying to get purposefully pregnant in a relationship without telling the boyfriend (usually in those scenarios its more to “save” it, but its the principal of the thing). Cruel, disrespectful and just plain hurtful to the other party.
DH says he isn’t ready, but he’s also said, in the past, that we may never think we will be ready and an “oops” may be the best thing for us. I’ve tried to ease into the baby talk in the past couple weeks, but he keeps changing the subject. Duly noted, DH…
Post # 3
Boy is he right on, I am TTC and still don’t think I’m ready!!! lol There were definitely times when I was on BC that I wouldn’t have minded an oops baby when AF was mysteriously late.
Post # 4
Yes. Its made harder when you SO won’t talk about the future but has said that he has wished that it had oops happened. Difficult moral dilema.
Post # 5
When we were NTNP I wished for an oops pregnacy each week beacause DH was not ready. We’ve been together 5 years and I am sooo ready to pop out a little baby. :o)
Post # 6
@CherryWaves: I went off the pill last April. For 11 months I secretly hoped to get pregnant. This April we went on vacation and had lots of carefree sex and voila: I got pregnant. It was a little scary at first because it wasn’t planned and thought out. After 2 days it was all about excitement!!!! I am 7 weeks now and OVER THE MOON!!
Post # 7
Kind of. I’m getting married next month, and with a big move planned Fall 2014, I know that the baby thing needs to be either right after the wedding, or we need to wait about 3 years for me to establish myself in a new job. Neither of us is happy with those two options, so part of me really wants to just have an oopsy right after the wedding, so I don’t have to wait too long, but feel like I rushed it since it was an “oh my how’d that happen!?” moment. lol
Post # 8
Yes! But I’m just upsetting myself with my stupid hopes, its hard enough to get pregnant while trying an oops feels just about impossible. But I was late this month so I got my hopes up, took a test and ended up disappointed of course.
I hate waiting for TTC!
Post # 9
I definitely wanted an oops baby. DH wouldn’t talk about babies, he kept saying another two years even after 3 or 4 years had passed lol. Fortunately the day our BFF’s baby was born he woke up and was like ok it’s time. Then while getting things ready, i.e. starting prenatals, going off the pill, getting insurance and short term disability lined up/straightened out, changing jobs, I was hoping it would just happen. I was even taking HPT’s on nights I knew I’d be drinking a lot (like our Halloween party, New Year’s party, etc) “just to make sure” and ending up disappointed. Then our first month actively TTC DH went out of town on my peak days. Then I was hoping for a Valentine’s baby the next month since that happened to be my peak day. Then the next month was my birthday and I wished for a baby whenever I blew out my candles. Clearly someone was listening to my wishes because we conceived on my birthday lol.
Post # 10
I lolled when I saw this title – I am definitely hoping for an oops baby! I’m more qualified than DH but he makes more money than me and we have been battling with whether it is worth if for me to complete my credentials THEN have a baby, or just have the baby and lean more heavily on his income (I dont want to work FT right after). Now we are starting the prenatals, doc visits, talking to people, this should be my last month of BCP and all the thinking and processing is working against my womb! I just want to get pregnant already and then have to deal with it 🙂
Post # 11
I certainly would have loved an oops baby, but only after we were married. I was always the one who wanted a baby like yesterday, but we had a plan of when we were going to TTC. As that time approached, I was super excited, but my husband was still a bit reluctant. What changed all that was his brother and his wife having a baby. Holding his niece for the first time gave him crazy baby fever and he was like “we need to have a baby now!”. Hahaha. I’m now 14 weeks pregnant and were both ecstatic!
Post # 12
So glad I’m not the only one! A lot of family on DH’s side are having babies (a cousin JUST had a baby boy this afternoon) and there’s still more to come. I’m not sure if this is putting DH off even more, after listening to how other’s around him are dealing with having an LO around. I think having an oops would be the best thing because DH is so very “fly by the seat of his pants” kind of guy and it would mean we would have to make ourselves be ready, not have any other way to go and make the best of it. I feel like the more DH would think about the planning and preparing, the more it would put him off and push it farther… May be time to put my foot down and actually talk about it.
Post # 13
All the time.
My life is about to get insanely hectic and getting pregnant would postpone a good half of it (the half that I’m not looking forward to). Granted, having a baby is hectic and stressful too, but… you get the idea. I would never sabotage my BC, though… but if it fails, it fails.
Post # 14
Yes! We are definitely not ready for a child, but I know that we would make it work if it did happen. Just a little longer to wait! (OK like 3 more years)
Post # 15
I too would love an oops baby, especially since I lost my first oops baby in March at 7 weeks. It made us both realise how much we want kids together and ASAP and was the reason why we bought our wedding forward by a year. (Had we not, it would have been wedding, house, babies… about 5 years time!) I haven’t gone back on the BCP and need to be careful from now until December, which is when our Destination Wedding is. I was due to go on vacation and found out hours before I was meant to go to the airport that I was miscarrying, so now I’m petrified of it happening again. I’d quite happily be a little bit pregnant come the wedding but I don’t want to risk not being able to fly due to a second miscarriage.
So now it’s just a waiting game…. there’s never an ideal time to have a baby we figured. I need to still move back to be with him, get a new job, us buy a house together, so it will no doubt be an oops baby! But Fiance will be more than pleased at that!
Post # 16
We’re not going to start trying for a year, but I think an “oops” baby would be great. 😛