Post # 1
A Cup of Joe has a really cute series of posts on “Secrets to a Happy Marriage.”
What are your secrets to a happy marriage?
My husband and I make each other laugh everyday. Not just little giggles, either. ‘Laugh until you cry and your stomach hurts’ type laughing. We say I love you often. We have long chats after we turn the lights off at night. I make him his favorite foods, and he always does the dishes (which I hate doing).
Post # 3
Clean fights and dirty sex!
Post # 4
Gotta keep some things a mystery… lol
Post # 5
Values…we share what we believe is important and work together for it.
Dance class…ballroom dance keeps you working together to learn something new
And..dirty sex helps..ALOT
Post # 6
Being Selfless…it truly is the key to great marriages.
Post # 8
def seperate bathrooms!!!!!! he has never walked in on my while in the bathroom and he knows this is never to happen!
for me, i had to learn its about taking into consideration and not asking for permission. i had an issue where i felt like when i was making plans that i was asking for his permission and it wasnt
laugh lots, always say i love you, dont go to bed angry, dont leave the house without saying i love you and having a kiss, saying thankyou even if its for the stupid stuff like putting out fresh towels or changing the bed sheets, acknowlege the little things.
Post # 9
Our priest told us the secret to a secessful marriage during our wedding: Banana Pancakes! He said that he was listening to his ipod and his daughter had put Jack Johnson on it and Banana Pancakes is the secret to s sucessful marriage because its about remembering to take time to turn off the rest of the world, staying inside, watching the rain, and eating banana pancakes. And their wedding gift to us was a pancake pan and banana pancake mix. Isnt that the best ever!??!
Post # 10
Mdarrah – too cute! Not married yet – but I think the best thing about our relationship is that we play a lot, are very affectionate towards each other and we are very gentle in language/tone when we disagree. We also try to learn new things from and with each other.
Post # 11
Not married either. My parents always give the same advice at weddings though: Fight naked (when you’re young it leads to sex; when you’re old it leads to laughter, then sex).
I’d say the most important thing me and my bf do is to fight fair. We don’t yell (or try not to). We don’t accuse (YOU DID x). We try to use I-statements (I feel badly when x because y. It hurts my feelings etc).
Post # 12
We take care of each other. We do things for the other person. And we make time for each other every day. I think this is key, and it was a big adjustment for us — like eloping mentioned, it’s not asking permission to do XYZ but letting the other person know what to expect from you, when you’ll be around, etc.
With the stress of the wedding gone, it’s like we’re dating again, without any of the games. I love being married.
Post # 13
Being in the same room without talking. Getting tucked in or tucking in at night. Showers together, him making me laugh when I’m trying to get mad. And we are one of those couples that DO stand around in the bathroom while the other does their business. I guess we’re gross ^__~
Post # 14
We have dinner together at the dinner table every single night and then clean up together, even if it’s takeout, leftovers, or sandwiches. Sometimes thats the only time we get together all day. If one of us is upset (usually it’s me being emotional about my day or upset at him for something silly) we still sit down for dinner together, even if we don’t talk. Eventually, we do talk, and it makes whatever it was all better. 🙂
Post # 15
I think fighting fair is important- don’t say stupid things in the heat of the moment that you will regret later.
do things that bond the two of you together, obviously sex, but even more importantly, holding hands, talking about your day, hugs and kisses. Tell each other how much you mean to to each other… stuff like that.
Post # 16
I’m not there yet, of course…just reading through to get some ideas. I have to say though that as much as the relationship building and love stuff sounds logical, the separate bathrooms tip is…a darn good idea. 😉