(Closed) secular readings- post your faves

posted 10 years ago in Secular
Post # 107
39 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve chosen to readings to be dine by family, one light hearted and one more lovey dovey


Marriage is Madness 


Marriage is about giving and taking
And forging and forsaking
Kissing and loving and pushing and shoving
Caring and Sharing and screaming and swearing

About being together whatever the weather
About being driven to the end of your tether
About Sweetness and kindness
And wisdom and blindness

It’s about being strong when you’re feeling quite weak
It’s about saying nothing when you’re dying to speak
It’s about being wrong when you know you are right
It’s about giving in, before there’s a fight
It’s about you two living as cheaply as one
(you can give us a call if you know how that’s done!)

Never heeding advice that was always well meant
Never counting the cost until it’s all spent
And for you two today it’s about to begin
And for all that the two of you had to put in
Some days filled with joy, and some days with sadness
Too late you’ll discover that marriage is madness.

I Will Be Here
Steven Curtis Chapman
If in the morning when you wake,
If the sun does not appear,
I will be here.
If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
I will be here.
I will be here,
When you feel like being quiet,
When you need to speak your mind I will listen.
Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together,
And I will be here.

If in the morning when you wake,
If the future is unclear,
I will be here.
As sure as seasons were made for change,
Our lifetimes were made for years,
I will be here.
I will be here,
And you can cry on my shoulder,
When the mirror tells us we’re older.
I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me.
We’ll be together and I will be here.
I will be true to the promises I’ve made,
To you and to the one who gave you to me.
I will be here.


I will also be asking our celebrant to read the ‘blessing of the hands’ before we exchange rings

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Post # 108
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

One of a few books my Fiance has read is Tuesdays with Morrie. We will most likely use that as our reading. 

“Still,” Morrie said, “there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.

“And the biggest one of those values, Mitch?” 


“Your belief in the importance of your marriage.” 

He sniffed, then closed his eyes for a moment. 

“Personally,” he sighed, his eyes still closed, “I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you’re missing a lot if you don’t try it.” 

He ended the subject by quoting a poem he believed in like a prayer: “Love each other or perish.”

Post # 109
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton

The fierce Dinosaur was trapped inside his cage of ice. Although it was cold he was happy in there. It was, after all, his cage.

Then along came the Lovely Other Dinosaur. The Lovely Other Dinosaur melted the Dinosaur’s cage with kind words and loving thoughts.

“I like this Dinosaur,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. “Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny. He is also quite clever, though I will not tell him this for now.”

“I like this Lovely Other Dinosaur,” thought the Dinosaur. “She is beautiful and she is different and she smells so nice. She is also a free spirit which is a quality I much admire in a dinosaur.”

“But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. “He is also overly fond of things. Are all Dinosaurs so overly fond of things?”

“But her mind skips from here to there so quickly,” thought the Dinosaur. “She is also uncommonly keen on shopping. Are all Lovely Other Dinosaurs so uncommonly keen on shopping?”

“I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. “For they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.”

“I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping,” thought the Dinosaur. “For she fills our life with beautiful thoughts and wonderful surprises. Besides, I am not unkeen on shopping either.”

Now the Dinosaur and the Lovely Other Dinosaur are old. Look at them. Together they stand on the hill telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the sun on their backs.

And that, my friends, is how it is with love. Let us all be Dinosaurs and Lovely Other Dinosaurs together. For the sun is warm. And the world is a beautiful place

Post # 110
507 posts
Busy bee

I loved these – I am going to search for another dog related vow or story but I may end up with the love is like a dog passage too!


Post # 111
48 posts

Love these!

Post # 111
1 posts

Here is a quote by Robert Ingersoll that we are going to use this summer. When I read his biography, I instantly knew it needed to be in our wedding.

“It is a splendid thing to think that the woman you really love will never grow old to you. Through the wrinkles of time, through the mask of years, if you really love her, you will always see the face you loved and won. And a woman who really loves a man does not see that he grows old; he is not decrepit to her; she will always see the same gallant gentlemen who won her hand and heart.” (Robert Ingersoll)

Post # 112
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Stone Garden Events

Commenting to follow!

Post # 113
1 posts

awakemysoul:  it is that movie with cameron diaz and shes a horrible sister who sleeps with her sisters fiance 

Post # 114
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Glen Echo Park

awakemysoul:  it was in the wedding scene in a movie with cameron diaz. – googled- “In her shoes.” 

Post # 115
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

After reading it here on the Bee, we also chose to include “The Union” in our secular ceremony. It was perfect!

Post # 116
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

 Here are ours (so far, might add one since they’re not super long):

Reading 1

Geniuses of countless nations

Have told their love for generations

Till all their memorable phrases

Are common as goldenrod or daisies

Their girls have glimmered like the moon

Or shimmered like a summer noon

Stood like lily, fled like fawn,

Now the sunset, now the dawn,

Here the princess in the tower

There the sweet forbidden flower,

Darling, when I look at you

Every aged phrase is news,

And there are moments when it seems

I’ve married one of Shakespeare’s dreams


-Ogden Nash, Reprise (from a book of ON poems I bought on one of our first trips together)


Reading 2


From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls that are destined to be together find each other, their streams of light flow together, and a single brighter light go


-Baal Shem Tov (FI’s choice)


Reading 3


I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.


-Billy Crystal, When Harry Met Sally (I love Nora Ephron, but so much of her writing on relationships centers on her two divorces. This was the only thing I could find that was upbeat and heartfelt)


I really love the Captain Corelli’s Mandolin passage as well as the Robert Ingersoll one, but since we haven’t actually read the books it kinda feels like cheating. Wish I could have read a passage from a book recently and thought “that’s gonna be in my wedding!” but I guess I’ve been reading some pretty dark, unromantic books lately

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