Post # 1
I am not getting married in a church by Fiance and I are both Christian. We are being married by a minister and we plan to have a scripture reading, but the song I am walking down the aisle to is a secular love song (nothing inappropriate, just not a “Christian” song). Is that weird or disrespectful in some way?
Post # 2
lovelybee1016: No. If it’s ok with your officiant, you are good to go.
Post # 3
lovelybee1016: No, it’s not disrespecful.
Post # 4
lovelybee1016: Why would it be disrespectful?
Post # 5
I honestly don’t see anything wrong with it.
Post # 6
Thanks for your feedback.
serotonin: I haven’t been to many weddings and the ones I’ve been to didn’t mix secular and Christian songs, so the thought popped in my mind. My family is not super conservative, but I do have one aunt who is freaking out because we’re not getting married in church lol so we’ll see.
Post # 7
I’m walking down the aisle to a secular song. Our officiant is a pastor (my uncle) and we will have a religious reading during the ceremony (not scripture but an excerpt from C.S. Lewis’s writings). You aren’t getting married in a church so it should be fine.
I didn’t check with our officiant about the song though and now I’m wondering if I should. I figured, it’s not a church so he doesn’t really get to dictate that sort of thing.
Post # 8
I got married in a fairly conservative church and we used the Jurassic Park theme music. I don’t even think we asked, though maybe we should have! I don’t think it’s disrespectful, but your pastor may not agree.
Post # 9
Nope, absolutely fine as long as the officiant is happy.
We walked in/out to classical music, sang hymns during the service and had a friend perform a secular love song. We liked the mix.
Post # 10
I think that it would be wrong to think that God has narrow musical tastes.
He doesn’t just listen to church music.
In fact it would be a bit of a waste of time and effort for God to spend six billion years of evolution to create people with a talent for music only to ignore them.
The secular music will be fine for your wedding.
I’m sure God (who will of course be present) will enjoy it.
Post # 11
We walked back out to Swedish House Mafia’s ‘Dont you worry child’!
Post # 12
If it’s not in an actual church it shouldn’t really matter at all, and many churches don’t even mind secular music in weddings as long as it isn’t something totally inappropriate. In my first wedding all the music was secular (Trumpet Voluntary, Rondeau from Masterpiece Theater, and two love song ballads performed by soloists) and at the time I was a member of a super-conservative denomination.